We hope this finds you safe, healthy and engaged in meaningful inner explorations, and outer creative play.

The summer gathering has been postponed. Since we still have the reservation for the space at Jack’s Creek, there may be an informal opportunity for folks to gather there, depending on fire closures & state issued rules concerning size of gatherings. Stay tuned for more info! Thanks to John Bishop and team for their efforts to figure this out.

The Fall Conference planning is underway with an active leadership team. At this point we hope Ghost Ranch will be open and functioning for our October 22-25 meeting. If you want to help out, please contact Mark Ayers (mayersabq@gmail.com)

Albuquerque Bring a Buddy continues on ZOOM.

Tuesday, June 2nd at 6:45 to 8:30 hosted by Barry Cooney.

The topic of this Zoom Meeting: will focus on “Kindness and Unkindness”  The word kindness has many aspects: generosity, sympathy, tenderness, compassion, and support;  While being unkind may be characterized by hostility, selfishness, cruelty or indifference. In what ways do you demonstrate kindness to yourself and others?; and by contrast, are there ways in which you’re acting unkindly to yourself, your loved ones, friends or the society in general?   
Please join us for this evening and PLEASE NOTE: we will limit attendance due to the use of Zoom to 18 men on a first come basis.

 You can use my email address- ryounger@galves.com to register.

If there is an overflow of men wanting to attend, Barry has graciously offered to repeat the same meeting on Tuesday June 16th at the same time.

Thanks and we look forward to seeing you on Tuesday evening.


Johnny Olesen and Robert Younger are doing Monday afternoon zoom meetings (next is June 1st)  focused on: How are you doing during these challenging times? Our lives are being affected in so many big and small ways, but we have an opportunity to gather and support each other. Let’s meet online in a safe space: to check in with each other and to share how this past month has been for us. We will use the large group and small group format to talk about the changes in our lives, our levels of support, our needs and ways to build connection.

 Please contact Robert Younger with any questions or to be added to our email list for Monday zoom meetings.

Santa Fe Bring A Buddy on Zoom Wednesday June 10, 6:30 to 8pm.

THORNS and BUDS  These days! What’s convenient? What’s inconvenient?

Wholeheartedness is a precious gift…Let’s spend the evening sharing our thorns and buds that we hold in this time of our lives.

Hosted by Glenn Dickter, a retired small business owner certified as a Compassionate Listening facilitator. He works with men in prison as part of the Alternatives to Violence Project, and has been involved for 25 years with The Mankind Project. Glenn has been a frequent attendee at Santa Fe Bring a Buddy events. To register/receive the Zoom access code, please email Victor LaCerva (heartsongsvittorio@gmail.com) no later than June 8, with BRING A BUDDY in subject line. Limited to 18 men. Look forward to seeing you!

Man, Alive! can only stay alive with your participation…please consider!

The deadline for submissions for the summer edition of Man, Alive! is Sunday, June 14. The theme is “Growth”. Relative to that theme, Covid-19 related submissions will also be considered. Remember we need poetry, prose no longer than 1500 words, illustrations and photography. You may send submissions directly to the editor at: hbfire88@gmail.com

Thank you!

Work is progressing really well on our new website. We’ll let you see it in all its glory with the July newsletter. Thanks to Mark Pugsley & team for all their hard work. And to Jim Connoly for years of service keeping the current one going!


Hugs from our NMMW Board: Mark Ayers, Barry Cooney, Jon Driscoll, Roger Harmon, Marc Kolman, Victor La Cerva, Mark Pugsley and Dave Robertson.


The Spring 2020 retreat has been canceled because of concern about the spread of COVID-19 in New Mexico.  When you click on the “Submit” button at the bottom of the form, you will be taken to a payment page where you can enter your credit card information.  After your registration and payment have been completed, you will receive two Emails, one from NMMW indicating your choices made and another from our payment agency (PayPal) that you payment has been received. 

The Spring Retreat has been canceled because of safety concerns around the spread of COVID-19 in New Mexico.  

Hope to see you next time!

Bob Bern, 2020 Spring Retreat Leder


After you have completed your “Reservation” for the Couples Retreat, you will receive the link to this page to complete your payment for the retreat.  If you have NOT completed your reservation, please click here and do that BEFORE completing your payment

If you are paying by check, please do the following:

  1. The cost for the weekend is $250.00 per couple.  If you have indicated that you will donate something to the NMMW scholarship fund, that amount should be added to your payment. 
  2. Write your check, payable to “New Mexico Men’s Wellness” for the total amount.  Include “Couples 2020” in the “Memo” field on your check. 
  3. Include a note with the following information and enclose it with your check: Your name and the name of the parson you are attending with, your telephone number and your Email address.
  4. Mail your check and note to:
    Michael Grodsky
    1 Sierra Lejana
    Santa Fe, NM 87508

Receipt of your check will be confirmed by Email. 

If you are paying for the retreat online (with Credit Card or PayPal), please complete the following payment form.  When the form is completed and submitted, you will be taken to our payment page to complete your payment. 

Please enter the security code:
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Entering the Security code (above) and clicking on the “Submit” button (at left) will save your payment information and take you to the payment link where you complete your online payment.  When completed you will receive email confirmation your information from NMMW and payment confirmation from PayPal. 


As of February 15, all spots at the Couples Retreat have been reserved.  This “Reservation” page has now become a Wait-list page.  Add your information to the page below and we will contact you if any cancellations come in before the event.  

To make a reservation for the 2020 Couples Retreat “Feeding Our Third Body” at Story Ranch on May 22-24, please complete and submit the form below.  Your reservation includes all of your contact information along with answering several questions that will help your leaders in the planning and logistics for the Retreat.  Please review the sections on Accommodations on the main retreat page before completing your reservation.   

Please fill out the information completely and submit the form when you are done.  No payment is required now; we will send you payment information for check or credit-card payment via Email after Reservations have been made. 

NMMW scholarships are available for those in need. Please email Michael (michael@artist911.com) to request a scholarship.    

Please enter the security code:
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When you enter the Security code (to stop fake reservations) and click on the “Submit” button, your reservation will be submitted to the leaders and a copy sent to your Email.  PLEASE CLICK THE SUBMIT BUTTON ONLY ONCE; multiple clicks can result in multiple reservations. 

We will contact you if a slot for the Couple’s Retreat opens up.