Because of developing and ongoing concerns about the Coronavirus (COVID-19) in the U.S. (including New Mexico) we have decided to cancel the 2020 Spring Retreat out of cautions and concerns for our Member’s health. All registrations paid will be refunded 100%. The registrar, Jim Connolly, will be contacting all those registered to arrange to do that. Please check your Email.


About the Retreat that won’t be happening this year. Hopefully next time.

Mindfulness: Mining the Majesty of our Minds

April 17, 18 and 19, 2020

at Hummingbird Music Camp,
104 Hummingbird Road, Jemez Springs NM 87025

Led by Robert Bern

We live in a world that excels at drawing us out of ourselves, providing us a convenient distraction from the voice that speaks softly inside. We are continually tempted to be better, to have more, to do more and have our minds, bodies and spirits in motion instead of resting in our own wisdom.  During this weekend we will explore what happens when we are quiet, simply sitting in the vast stillness of our selves, being with what we find with curiosity and without judgement.

Open and inclusive to all men regardless of age, ethnicity, race, marital
status, or sexual orientation.  Limited to a total of 36 men.

Please come join a small community of men in the calm splendor of northern New Mexico’s mountains to rest and bask in the beauty of mindfulness. The Friday through Sunday program will involve individual and small group experiential activities that will include silence, reflection, journaling and hanging out with each other in nature. Please bring a journal and question of the heart, whose answer might blossom in the stillness of our gathering.

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. 
Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”   

—  Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

The cost of Hummingbird meals for the weekend is $44.  There is a $10 bedding charge, unless you bring your own towels, sheets & pillowcase (or sleeping bag).  You may also bring a tent or sleep in your camper for $10 per night (expect freezing temperatures in April at this elevation). 

Registration and room assignments will be between 4 and 5:30 pm Friday evening with our potluck dinner at 6:00.  We are at the North Campus.  Feel free to come to Hummingbird anytime on Friday and enjoy the land. If you want to come early on Thursday for an extra night with NO MEALS PROVIDED, you MUST contact Robert Bern after you register. You will pay Hummingbird $35 directly for this extra night ($10 to camp). The conference ends after lunch on Sunday. 

Accommodations are double rooms.  You can visit the new website to view the rooms at http://hummingbirdmusiccamp.com/about-our-camp/hummingbird-campus/north-campus/.

 

Friday night we will have our traditional potluck meal starting at 6:00 PM. Please bring HEALTHY food to share, a main dish, vegetable dish, or dessert. All other meals will be served by Hummingbird—vegetarian and gluten-free options available. You may opt-out of ALL Hummingbird meals, & bring your own food, pots and pans.  Flatware will be provided and a refrigerator is available.

Directions to the Camp:  http://hummingbirdmusiccamp.com/maps-and-directions/     Emergency numbers for Hummingbird: (575) 829-3060 or (575) 829-4227 (don’t count on cell phone coverage in the Jemez).

REFUND POLICY: 90% if cancel before 2 weeks; Within 2 weeks refund at 90% only if we fill your spot from the waiting list.

SCHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE for those in need.  Call Robert Bern at (505) 505-204-8731 or e-mail robertbern678@gmail.com to request a scholarship or if you have other questions.  If requesting a scholarship, do not register until you have contacted Bob.  

How to Register for the Retreat

Registration is closed and the retreat has been cancelled because of concerns about CORONAVIRUS in New Mexico.  You may register completely online and use a credit card to register by clicking here.  Complete the registration form and choose your options for registration.  When done you will be taken to a payment page where you will enter your credit card information.  To register and pay by mailing in a check please click here.  You will complete a registration form, print it out and mail it with your check to the address on the form. The receipt of your registration in the mail will be confirmed by Email.  

Please note: If you plan to request a scholarship to cover part of your registration, please contact Bob Bern (at 505-204-2731 or e-mail to robertbern678@gmail.com) before you register.  

Share the Spring Retreat with Others

We also have a printable three-page PDF flyer (click here to download it) that includes information about the retreat and a mail-in registration form that you may download, print and share with any friends you’d like to invite to the Retreat.  The Spring retreat can be a great and low-cost introduction to Men’s Wellness for men of all ages and backgrounds.



Additional Information About the Retreat

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Feeding Our Third Body

 

New Mexico Men’s Wellness
Couples Retreat 2020

May 22-24

Friday, May 22, Arrival and Set-up: 3:00 pm – 5:00 pm
Sunday, May 24, 3:00 pm: Conclusion
As of February 15, the Couple’s Retreat is full. The wait-list is open 
(Click HERE to add your names to the Wait-list if there are cancellations)
(Please review information about the Story Ranch site
BEFORE making your Reservation)
Limit to 12 couples

Co-facilitated by 
Cindy and John McLeod, Michael Grodsky and Mara Lonner

For questions, please contact
John McLeod (storyranchprograms@gmail.com) or
Michael Grodsky (michael@artist911.com)

Feeding Our Third Body is the theme of the NMMW annual couples’ retreat.  The weekend’s goal is to make evident, to awaken, to cherish and learn to feed the “third body,” an entity that is the relationship itself between partners. Rooted in the arts, personal and group explorations, music and outdoor excursions, couples will be encouraged to deepen their caring and empathy for that, which we grow together. 

Story Ranch, the home of John and Cindy McLeod, and 13 miles from Las Vegas, NM along the Tecolote River will be the retreat site. Participants will stay and eat meals on site. Based at the  McLeod farm/wilderness homesite, couples will be offered a variety of housing with outhouses, including two 80-year-old cabins, a treehouse, vintage trailer, casitas, and camping sites. There is also a bedroom in the indoor main house and one bedroom in a neighbors’ guest facilities with bathrooms. There are spaces for RVs. Registration responses will guide the accommodation designations.

Please note, later May at 7,000 feet can be extraordinarily beautiful, but can still have cold nights, variable weather, and winds. Attendees should feel comfortable in outdoor settings, flexible to weather-based agenda changes, appreciative of rustic/rural settings, familiar with NMMW culture and curious to explore our relational third bodies.  

A printable flyer that can be shared with someone you think would benefit from this retreat is available for download here.  

Cost $250 per couple includes materials, sleeping accommodations, two breakfasts, two lunches and one dinner.

NMMW scholarships are available for those in need. Please email Michael (michael@artist911.com) to request a scholarship.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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About our Story Ranch Retreat Location and Facilities

Please read this section BEFORE making your reservation.

List of “Givens”:
  • Meals: Friday evening dinner is a pot luck.  The retreat provides Saturday breakfast-lunch-dinner and Sunday breakfast & lunch.
  • Warm/Hot outdoor showers, limited access to indoor showers.  (Unfortunately our Third Bodies cannot be assured of daily hot showers.)
  • Cell phone reception: only Verizon works here.  There are two cellular phones that can be used if needed.  
  • Story Ranch is a farm and there are animals with feathers and fur, plus household dogs Bruno and Floki.  However, there are no cats on the land or in sleeping areas.  
  • To prevent overloading the septic tank, we ask thaty you use the outhouse whenever possible. 

Accommodations:  We have prepared some information explaining the different types of sleeping residence arrangements are available.  Please read this information BEFORE making your Reservation (as we will ask you some questions when you do that).  Clicking on this link will connect to “The Story of Story Ranch” which provides some more information about the retreat location.  (Please note that these presentations are quite large so they might take a while to finish downloading.  Be patient!)  

How to Register

In order to be fair about signing up for limited available slots, we are initiating a two-stage registration process.  On February 14 (Valentine’s Day) at Noon we will open the Reservation sign-up.  The link for this page will appear here (and at the top of this page).  Click on the link and fill out all the required information and make your reservation.  You do not need to pay anything at this point.  Please review the previous section on the location and facilities before attempting to complete your reservation.  The first 12 couples to Reserve a spot will be sent a link to our payment page where they can pay for the retreat either with a credit card or by mailing a check.   Reservations exceeding our 12-couple limit will be put on a waiting list and contacted if there are cancellations.  

As we get closer to the retreat, we will send more thematic and logistical information out to those participating in the retreat.  

We hope to see you there.  

John, Cindy, Michael and Mara

 

The dates and locations for major events in the future are listed below! Details, including themes, leader contacts, details and links to event web pages, and other information posted and linked here as they become available. All NMMW events are open to and inclusive of all men regardless of age, ethnicity, race and sexual orientation.  Check back as we add details as they become available.  This page will be revised as information comes in and now will not be restricted to a particular calendar year.

Bring a Buddy Events – Monthly; Check Website or your Email

“Bring a Buddy” events are short activities held approximately monthly in Santa Fe or Albuquerque that are designed to introduce new Men to the kind of work that we do to develop strong, healthy male relationships and introduce issues of interest to men in our modern changing world.  These events are always free. Details about location, time and topic will be posted on our main web page as they are available.

Winter Gathering 2020

  • Dates: In February 20 – 24, 2020
  • Location: Lawrence Cook’s Cabin in the Colorado
  • Theme: 20/20 Vision (details to follow)
  • Contact: Lawrence Cook (lrcook44@msn.com) and/or Uwe Schroeter (uweschroeter@comcast.net)

Spring Retreat 2020

Because of the COVID 19 public health concerns, the NMMW Spring Retreat for 2020 has been canceled, and all registrations refunded.

  • Dates: April 17-19, 2020
  • Location: Hummingbird Music Camp (near Jemez, NM)
  • Theme: Mindfulness: Mining the Majesty of our Minds
  • Contact: Robert Bern (robertbern678@gmail.com)

Couple’s Gathering 2020

Because of the COVID 19 public health concerns, the NMMW Couple’s Gathering for 2020 has been canceled, and all registrations refunded.  We are currently planning to hold the retreat in the Spring of 2021.

  • Dates: May 22 – to May 24, 2020
  • Location: Story Ranch, the home of John and Cindy McLeod, near Las Vegas, NM
  • Theme: Feeding Our Third Body (click the link above for more information)
  • Contact: Leaders Cindy & John McLeod (resistclimatechange@gmail.com; 505-231-1914) and Mara Loner (mara@maraloner.com; 310-869-3570) & Michael Grodsky

Summer Gathering 2020

Because of the COVID 19 public health emergency, we are planning to modify the event to be less of a formal gathering and more of an informal outdoor gathering, taking the appropriate social distancing measures.  More information will be forthcoming in July.

  • Dates: July 24 – 26, 2020
  • Location: Jack’s Creek Group Campground near Pecos, NM
  • Theme: To be announced
  • Contact: John Bishop (johnbishop@abqadr.com)

Fall Conference 2020

  • Dates: October 22 – 25, 2020
  • Location: Ghost Ranch Conference Center, Abquiu, NM
  • Theme: The Story of Our Lives (a working title)
  • Contact: Mark Ayers (mayersabq@gmail.com)

Anyone having changes, additions, or corrections to this page, please contact webmaster Jim Connolly via Email to webmaster@nmmw.org.

THE 30TH NEW MEXICO MEN’S WELLNESS

FALL CONFERENCE

WITH THE THEME OF

“FRIENDSHIP: MEN IN COMMUNITY”

 OCTOBER 23-26, 2014

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The 30th New Mexico Men’s Wellness Conference was held October 23-26, 2014 at Ghost Ranch in Abiquiu, New Mexico.  Over the four days the theme of “Friendship – Men in Community” was explored in depth from many perspectives.  Almost a quarter of the men participating were new to a Men’s Wellness event with over 100 in attendance.  Quite a few men invited friends from many-year relationships, some who had known each other for over 60 years!  In addition, many men left the Conference with newly found friends, ready to take what they learned into the world and build new friendships there.

This year for the first time, this page, which was the “registration” and information page for the Conference has been turned into a page about the Conference to be shared with the participants and anyone who happens upon it on this web site.  For participants, it is a spot to reflect on the weekend and perhaps share their reflections on it in the comments section at the end.  For others we hope that you will learn something about the annual New Mexico Men’s Wellness Conference is about and what we do as an organization to help men grow in healthy community with other men, and to take that community into the world of their everyday lives.

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Sunset at Ghost Ranch

 

Leadership and Planning for the Fall Conference

The NMMW Conference is unique in that it does not draw upon outside “experts” to provide information that we “need” to know, but relies on a planning process involving a large number of men from the community who contribute their ideas, energy, creativity and talents to craft a home-grown program around the theme of the conference.  Thirty years ago Victor LaCerva started New Mexico Men’s Wellness and initiated John-Gerversthe first Conference with a focus on men and their health. Our mission continues  “to nurture wellness in body, mind and spirit through the sharing of experiences across generations and cultures in safe, collaborative settings”.  Our strength is the participatory nature of Men’s Wellness.  This year’s leader John Gervers with co-leader and successor Charlie Lamson started the planning process in late July and continued with meetings every two weeks in Santa Fe and Albuquerque until just before the conference.  The heart of the Conference is this Planning Committee, open to all intended participants, who volunteer their time to develop the theme, create the sessions, and lead various elements of the Conference.  This year more than 30 men participated in the planning process developing the three days of themed “blocks” around the overall topic of Friendship with the block leaders drawn from the participants who planned the conference.

Eclipse at Ghost RanchAn Auspicious Opening

The conference opened on Thursday, October 31.  During the registration time, there was a partial eclipse of the Sun that felt like a significant transition leading into the weekend.  Joseph Woods captured the photo at left with a solar filter on his small telescope that shows a couple of sunspots that are about as large as the planet Jupiter (Click on the image to see it full size).  A great start to the 30th Fall Conference!

 The Buddha was asked, “Is good friendship, good companionship, good comradeship a part of the holy life?”

The Buddha answered, “No, good friendship, good companionship, good comradeship are not ‘a part of the holy life’, they are the entire holy life”.

 

The Conference Organization and “Blocks”**:

Thursday Evening: Welcome, Opening Ceremony, Introduction to the theme of “Friendship”, Breakout of small groups and first meeting, “Assessing our Friendships,” followed by Closing Circle.

Early Friday Morning: Optional exercises including Meditation, Qi Gong and Yoga.

ConversationFriday Morning: Announcements, Warm-Up Exercise.  Block topic on “Isolation and Other Barriers to Friendship” to explore how we inhibit the initiation and development of friendships.

Friday Afternoon: Block topic on “Conflict Resolution.”  Skit: Friends in conflict Cassius and Brutus from Shakespeare’s “Julius Caesar”; Exercise to explore unresolved conflicts in our relationships with other men.
Late afternoon optional activities including Art Project, Poetry Circle, Jam Sessions (Electric indoors, Ukelele outdoors), Hiking.

Friday Evening: Choice of Activities including: Passing of the Sword Ceremony, Outdoor Fire Circle and Drumming Circle, Sweat Lodge (Hot), and Movies with the theme of Friendship.

Early Saturday Morning: Grief Circle to honor and remember those lost to us

Saturday Morning: Announcements.  Early Block on “Nurturing Old Friendships”; Later block on “Creating New Friendships”

Saturday Afternoon: Block on the topic of “Creating Friendships with Women.”
Late afternoon optional activities including Art Project, Sweat Lodge (Mild), Yoga, Hiking, etc.  NMMW Annual Meeting just before dinner.

Saturday Evening: Elders and Sages Ceremonies, followed by “Saturday Night Live” — performances, music, skits, drumming and silliness.

Early Sunday Morning: Optional exercises including Meditation, Qi Gong and Yoga.

Passing-LeadershipSunday Morning: Announcements, Passing of NMMW Small Group Drum and Compassionate Hands, followed by Large Talking Circle with reactions about the weekend from all who wish to share.  Final small group meeting with take-aways and commitments.  Walk to Canyon for Closing Ceremony and Passing of the Leadership.

** “Blocks” vary in structure, but generally introduce the topic in the large circle of men then break into dyads or small groups to explore the topic in more depth, sometimes returning to the large group at the conclusion of the block.  Blocks vary in length but are typically 90 minutes to 2 hours in length.

A song about friendship, Through Your Eyes was written by David Kuenzli specifically for this conference and was distributed to all conference attendees.  It is linked here for playing or downloading.  It may be freely played and shared but please give David credit if you do share it.

30 Years of NMMW Conference Leaders

While not all of the former Conference leaders could attend, there was a large contingent of former leaders of the NMMW conferences represented at this 30th Conference.  In the photo below from left to right are John Gervers, Mike Pedroncelli, Kurt Faust, Shel Goldman, Michael Wilkinson, Lawrence Cook, Charles Fisher, Phil Davis, Michael Kaufman, Barry Cooney, David Johnson, David Kuenzli, and Victor LaCerva.  Also attending (but not in the photo) were Mark Bennett and Barry McIntosh.  (Click on the photo to see it full size)

Past-Leaders

Scholarships

The costs of the Conference are as low as we can get from Ghost Ranch, and by far the bulk of the fees go toward meals, lodging and use of the facilities.  We want men of all financial circumstances to be able to participate in the Conference if they wish to do so.  For this reason we encourage men who want to participate but need some assistance to connect with the conference leaders for assistance.  We also encourage men who can contribute to the scholarship fund to do so, to support those men who need it.  NMMW is a 501(c)3 nonprofit educational corporation, and all donations to the scholarship fund or to other activities of the organization are deductible as charitable contributions.  There is a page on this web site that will accept online donations with our gratitude: http://www.nmmw.org/about/donate/

For your feedback or to get more information:

Call-to-closingThis page is open for comments.  Please see the comments section at the end of the page.  Some men who participated in the conference have already submitted comments to webmaster Jim Connolly (jrc347@gmail.com) who has incorporated them into the comments.  Comments may be submitted by anyone who has registered for access on this website and blog.  Click on this link and you will be taken in a new “tab” or window to a page that will help you to register for the site so that you may post comments or other materials that you would like to contribute to the NMMW community via this website and blog.  We encourage registration so that this site can benefit from your input, but if you would like to just have your comment about this page posted you can send it via Email to Jim Connolly via his Email address and he will get it posted for you.  You must include your actual name and contact information with your Email, but it does NOT need to be included in your comment; just clarify that when you send your Email.

If you have any feedback or suggestions for this year’s leader (John) or for the leader of next year’s (31st) Conference (Charlie) please contact them:

For more Online Information about NMMW:

 

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(Most of the photos on this page are from Uwe Schroeter with one from Joseph Woods.)