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What is a community of men for? What do different generations of men have to learn from each other? What are the rituals of the future?

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The 2019 Fall Conference is an annual event that reconnects men to their core desires and their life’s purpose. This year, we will use a generational lens to understand how life’s most enduring challenges – work, home, politics, play, and spirit – have changed through generations of men and what we can learn when we communicate across generational barriers.

Ghost Ranch
October 24-27, 2019

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The dates and locations for major events in the future are listed below! Details, including themes, leader contacts, details and links to event web pages, and other information posted and linked here as they become available. All NMMW events are open to and inclusive of all men regardless of age, ethnicity, race and sexual orientation.  Check back as we add details as they become available.  This page will be revised as information comes in and now will not be restricted to a particular calendar year.

Bring a Buddy Events – Monthly; Check Website or your Email

  • “Bring a Buddy” events are short activities held approximately monthly in Santa Fe or Albuquerque that are designed to introduce new Men to the kind of work that we do to develop strong, healthy male relationships and introduce issues of interest to men in our modern changing world.  These events are always free. Details about location, time and topic will be posted on our main web page as they are available

NMMW 35th Anniversary Gala

  • Date: September 14, 2019
  • Location: The Center for Spiritual Living in Albuquerque, NM
  • Theme: Come and help us celebrate 35 years of New Mexico Men’s Wellness
  • Contact: Bruce Berlin (bruceberlin45@gmail.com)

Fall Conference 2019

  • Dates: October 24-27, 2019
  • Location: Ghost Ranch Conference Center, Abiquiu, New Mexico
  • Theme: Generations: the Legacy and Future of Male Community
  • Contact: David River (dbriver@gmail.com)

Winter Gathering 2020

  • Dates: In February 20 – 24, 2020
  • Location: Lawrence Cook’s Cabin in the Colorado
  • Theme: 20/20 Vision (details to follow)
  • Contact: Lawrence Cook (lrcook44@msn.com) and/or Uwe Schroeter (uweschroeter@comcast.net)

Spring Retreat 2020

  • Dates: April 17-19, 2020
  • Location: Hummingbird Music Camp (near Jemez, NM)
  • Theme: To be announced
  • Contact: Robert Bern (robertbern678@gmail.com)

Couple’s Gathering 2020

  • Dates: Friday Evening May 8 – to Sunday, May 10, 2020
  • Location: Chittak and Ambra Caldwell’s place in Corrales
  • Theme: to be Announced
  • Contact: Leaders Cindy & John McLeod (resistclimatechange@gmail.com; 505-231-1914) and Mara Loner (mara@maraloner.com; 310-869-3570) & Michael Grodsky

Summer Gathering 2020

  • Dates: July 24 – 26, 2020
  • Location: Jack’s Creek Group Campground near Pecos, NM
  • Theme: To be announced
  • Contact: John Bishop (johnbishop@abqadr.com)

Anyone having changes, additions, or corrections to this page, please contact webmaster Jim Connolly via Email to webmaster@nmmw.org.

Registration is now open!

May 31 – June 2, 2019


Ghost Ranch Conference Center, Abiquiu, NM

If We Had a Time Machine . . .

The Father/Daughter Gathering has been held since 2005, and has become one of NM Men’s Wellness’ core events. The mission of the Gathering is to enable Fathers and Daughters to gather together, honor, celebrate, and grow in their unique relationship in a safe place away from their daily lives.

Our theme this year “If we had a time machine… ”, invites us to look back on our memories, express gratitude for our present, and dream up our future relationship.  Come prepared to have fun, learn, grow, and connect. This will be an opportunity to get to know one another in entirely new ways!

Over the course of three days we will share in large and small group settings, explore topics and questions in “fishbowl” style (always a favorite) and enjoy a father-daughter lunch outing.  We will also hike and explore Ghost Ranch together, gather around a campfire and create an art project.

This year’s Gathering is scheduled from May 31-June 2nd, starting at 3pm Friday afternoon through Sunday at 1pm. The registration fee will include two nights lodging in simple yet comfortable shared accommodations, all meals from Friday evening through Sunday morning, all gathering activities related to the conference, and access to all of the hiking trails, library, museums and other Ghost Ranch facilities. A limited number of partial scholarships are available for those who need it.  We hope you will consider being a part of this special gathering.

REGISTRATION

Registration is open.  If you’d like to attend, please register by the registration deadline April 30th.  Early bird discount of $25 per person if you register by April 15. (we have extended the Early Bird discount!)

 The cost for the Gathering is $260 per person ($235 with early bird discount) and includes lodging, meals, activities, and a T-shirt designed just for this year’s Gathering.  Daughters must be at least 18 years of age at the time of the gathering; any exceptions to this policy must be cleared in advance by the gathering leaders (see contact information below).

There are two registration options – online and mail-in.  For mail-in registration, click here (or on the graphic to the left) to download the mail-in registration form.  Once you download the form, you can type in your info with Adobe Acrobat Reader and print it out, or just print the blank form and fill it out by hand.  Then, mail the forms with your check to the address on the form.  For online registration (paying with credit card or PayPal) please click here click here (or on the graphic at right) to go to our online registration page.  Regardless of how your register, please complete a registration for each person attending. 

Registration is first come, first served based on when your payment is received.  Due to space limitations, we have allowed for 24 participants (12 fathers and 12 daughters) with a waiting list beyond that.

Early sign-up is encouraged (and greatly appreciated) to facilitate planning and logistics.  We will send details about location, directions and facilities after your registrations are received.

SCHOLARSHIPS

SCHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE for those in need. Please email kurt@tierraconceptssantafe.com to request a scholarship or if you have other questions.

We also encourage those who can contribute to the scholarship fund to do so to support those who need it.  Since registration costs are kept to the bare minimum (largely controlled by the cost of our host facilities) and we do not have any endowments for scholarships, we rely on donations to the scholarship fund to make scholarships available.   NMMW is a 501(c)3 nonprofit educational corporation, and all donations to the scholarship fund or other activities of the organization are deductible as charitable contributions to the fullest extent of the law. 

CONTACTS

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FLYER TO SHARE WITH FRIENDS

We have prepared a 4-page flyer that includes information about the Father and Daughter Gathering gathering that can be shared with people you think would be interested in participating.  Click here to download it.  This can be sent as an Email attachment and can be used to learn about the Gathering and register.  Please share! 

Some comments from participants in previous Father & Daughter Gatherings

It was fun, it was challenging, and it led to a break-through in our relationship that has brought us closer together.”

 

“Spending three days with my adult daughter was just a wonderful experience of getting to know her and appreciate her in an entirely new way.”

“It opened windows into a different way of seeing and being with each other and has changed the dynamic of our relationship completely!”

 

“The father daughter gathering was a special opportunity to grow closer to my father, sharing our feelings and our hopes for moving forward, conscious of the relationship that we want to build with each other.”


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THE 30TH NEW MEXICO MEN’S WELLNESS

FALL CONFERENCE

WITH THE THEME OF

“FRIENDSHIP: MEN IN COMMUNITY”

 OCTOBER 23-26, 2014

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The 30th New Mexico Men’s Wellness Conference was held October 23-26, 2014 at Ghost Ranch in Abiquiu, New Mexico.  Over the four days the theme of “Friendship – Men in Community” was explored in depth from many perspectives.  Almost a quarter of the men participating were new to a Men’s Wellness event with over 100 in attendance.  Quite a few men invited friends from many-year relationships, some who had known each other for over 60 years!  In addition, many men left the Conference with newly found friends, ready to take what they learned into the world and build new friendships there.

This year for the first time, this page, which was the “registration” and information page for the Conference has been turned into a page about the Conference to be shared with the participants and anyone who happens upon it on this web site.  For participants, it is a spot to reflect on the weekend and perhaps share their reflections on it in the comments section at the end.  For others we hope that you will learn something about the annual New Mexico Men’s Wellness Conference is about and what we do as an organization to help men grow in healthy community with other men, and to take that community into the world of their everyday lives.

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Sunset at Ghost Ranch

 

Leadership and Planning for the Fall Conference

The NMMW Conference is unique in that it does not draw upon outside “experts” to provide information that we “need” to know, but relies on a planning process involving a large number of men from the community who contribute their ideas, energy, creativity and talents to craft a home-grown program around the theme of the conference.  Thirty years ago Victor LaCerva started New Mexico Men’s Wellness and initiated John-Gerversthe first Conference with a focus on men and their health. Our mission continues  “to nurture wellness in body, mind and spirit through the sharing of experiences across generations and cultures in safe, collaborative settings”.  Our strength is the participatory nature of Men’s Wellness.  This year’s leader John Gervers with co-leader and successor Charlie Lamson started the planning process in late July and continued with meetings every two weeks in Santa Fe and Albuquerque until just before the conference.  The heart of the Conference is this Planning Committee, open to all intended participants, who volunteer their time to develop the theme, create the sessions, and lead various elements of the Conference.  This year more than 30 men participated in the planning process developing the three days of themed “blocks” around the overall topic of Friendship with the block leaders drawn from the participants who planned the conference.

Eclipse at Ghost RanchAn Auspicious Opening

The conference opened on Thursday, October 31.  During the registration time, there was a partial eclipse of the Sun that felt like a significant transition leading into the weekend.  Joseph Woods captured the photo at left with a solar filter on his small telescope that shows a couple of sunspots that are about as large as the planet Jupiter (Click on the image to see it full size).  A great start to the 30th Fall Conference!

 The Buddha was asked, “Is good friendship, good companionship, good comradeship a part of the holy life?”

The Buddha answered, “No, good friendship, good companionship, good comradeship are not ‘a part of the holy life’, they are the entire holy life”.

 

The Conference Organization and “Blocks”**:

Thursday Evening: Welcome, Opening Ceremony, Introduction to the theme of “Friendship”, Breakout of small groups and first meeting, “Assessing our Friendships,” followed by Closing Circle.

Early Friday Morning: Optional exercises including Meditation, Qi Gong and Yoga.

ConversationFriday Morning: Announcements, Warm-Up Exercise.  Block topic on “Isolation and Other Barriers to Friendship” to explore how we inhibit the initiation and development of friendships.

Friday Afternoon: Block topic on “Conflict Resolution.”  Skit: Friends in conflict Cassius and Brutus from Shakespeare’s “Julius Caesar”; Exercise to explore unresolved conflicts in our relationships with other men.
Late afternoon optional activities including Art Project, Poetry Circle, Jam Sessions (Electric indoors, Ukelele outdoors), Hiking.

Friday Evening: Choice of Activities including: Passing of the Sword Ceremony, Outdoor Fire Circle and Drumming Circle, Sweat Lodge (Hot), and Movies with the theme of Friendship.

Early Saturday Morning: Grief Circle to honor and remember those lost to us

Saturday Morning: Announcements.  Early Block on “Nurturing Old Friendships”; Later block on “Creating New Friendships”

Saturday Afternoon: Block on the topic of “Creating Friendships with Women.”
Late afternoon optional activities including Art Project, Sweat Lodge (Mild), Yoga, Hiking, etc.  NMMW Annual Meeting just before dinner.

Saturday Evening: Elders and Sages Ceremonies, followed by “Saturday Night Live” — performances, music, skits, drumming and silliness.

Early Sunday Morning: Optional exercises including Meditation, Qi Gong and Yoga.

Passing-LeadershipSunday Morning: Announcements, Passing of NMMW Small Group Drum and Compassionate Hands, followed by Large Talking Circle with reactions about the weekend from all who wish to share.  Final small group meeting with take-aways and commitments.  Walk to Canyon for Closing Ceremony and Passing of the Leadership.

** “Blocks” vary in structure, but generally introduce the topic in the large circle of men then break into dyads or small groups to explore the topic in more depth, sometimes returning to the large group at the conclusion of the block.  Blocks vary in length but are typically 90 minutes to 2 hours in length.

A song about friendship, Through Your Eyes was written by David Kuenzli specifically for this conference and was distributed to all conference attendees.  It is linked here for playing or downloading.  It may be freely played and shared but please give David credit if you do share it.

30 Years of NMMW Conference Leaders

While not all of the former Conference leaders could attend, there was a large contingent of former leaders of the NMMW conferences represented at this 30th Conference.  In the photo below from left to right are John Gervers, Mike Pedroncelli, Kurt Faust, Shel Goldman, Michael Wilkinson, Lawrence Cook, Charles Fisher, Phil Davis, Michael Kaufman, Barry Cooney, David Johnson, David Kuenzli, and Victor LaCerva.  Also attending (but not in the photo) were Mark Bennett and Barry McIntosh.  (Click on the photo to see it full size)

Past-Leaders

Scholarships

The costs of the Conference are as low as we can get from Ghost Ranch, and by far the bulk of the fees go toward meals, lodging and use of the facilities.  We want men of all financial circumstances to be able to participate in the Conference if they wish to do so.  For this reason we encourage men who want to participate but need some assistance to connect with the conference leaders for assistance.  We also encourage men who can contribute to the scholarship fund to do so, to support those men who need it.  NMMW is a 501(c)3 nonprofit educational corporation, and all donations to the scholarship fund or to other activities of the organization are deductible as charitable contributions.  There is a page on this web site that will accept online donations with our gratitude: http://www.nmmw.org/about/donate/

For your feedback or to get more information:

Call-to-closingThis page is open for comments.  Please see the comments section at the end of the page.  Some men who participated in the conference have already submitted comments to webmaster Jim Connolly (jrc347@gmail.com) who has incorporated them into the comments.  Comments may be submitted by anyone who has registered for access on this website and blog.  Click on this link and you will be taken in a new “tab” or window to a page that will help you to register for the site so that you may post comments or other materials that you would like to contribute to the NMMW community via this website and blog.  We encourage registration so that this site can benefit from your input, but if you would like to just have your comment about this page posted you can send it via Email to Jim Connolly via his Email address and he will get it posted for you.  You must include your actual name and contact information with your Email, but it does NOT need to be included in your comment; just clarify that when you send your Email.

If you have any feedback or suggestions for this year’s leader (John) or for the leader of next year’s (31st) Conference (Charlie) please contact them:

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(Most of the photos on this page are from Uwe Schroeter with one from Joseph Woods.)