The latest edition of NMMW’s “Man, Alive!” for Summer, 2020 is now available for reading online or downloading (so you can print your own copy).  Summer is the time of Growth and this is the focus of our Summer edition.    Click here to read and/or download this latest issue.  We think you will find some interesting and challenging pieces to stimulate thoughts on the growth we are experiencing in these times of significant change.  

NMMW is a volunteer organization and we need YOUR input to make Man, Alive! and all of the other activities of New Mexico Men’s Wellness a success.  Our editor is Hank Blackwell (  Please contact Hank with any questions you may have about submissions.  There is also information about how to submit material on our website at this link

We have completed compilation of as many issues of Man, Alive! as we have been able to locate in the Man, Alive! section of this web site. You can go to the appropriate section of the pull-down menu above, or just click on this link

An important note: Man, Alive! is distributed as an Adobe PDF.  Viewing PDF files with any web browser (Internet Explorer, Firefox, Google Chrome, Safari, etc.).  Printing PDF files from your web browser, however, can result in illegible garbled text.  To print the Man, Alive! issues, it is suggested that you download and install the Acrobat PDF Reader from Adobe.  It is is free and will take a little time to install, but should produce good, readable printed copies.  The download link is below: 

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We hope this finds you safe, healthy and engaged in meaningful inner explorations, and outer creative play.

The summer gathering has been postponed. Since we still have the reservation for the space at Jack’s Creek, there may be an informal opportunity for folks to gather there, depending on fire closures & state issued rules concerning size of gatherings. Stay tuned for more info! Thanks to John Bishop and team for their efforts to figure this out.

The Fall Conference planning is underway with an active leadership team. At this point we hope Ghost Ranch will be open and functioning for our October 22-25 meeting. If you want to help out, please contact Mark Ayers (

Albuquerque Bring a Buddy continues on ZOOM.

Tuesday, June 2nd at 6:45 to 8:30 hosted by Barry Cooney.

The topic of this Zoom Meeting: will focus on “Kindness and Unkindness”  The word kindness has many aspects: generosity, sympathy, tenderness, compassion, and support;  While being unkind may be characterized by hostility, selfishness, cruelty or indifference. In what ways do you demonstrate kindness to yourself and others?; and by contrast, are there ways in which you’re acting unkindly to yourself, your loved ones, friends or the society in general?   
Please join us for this evening and PLEASE NOTE: we will limit attendance due to the use of Zoom to 18 men on a first come basis.

 You can use my email address- to register.

If there is an overflow of men wanting to attend, Barry has graciously offered to repeat the same meeting on Tuesday June 16th at the same time.

Thanks and we look forward to seeing you on Tuesday evening.


Johnny Olesen and Robert Younger are doing Monday afternoon zoom meetings (next is June 1st)  focused on: How are you doing during these challenging times? Our lives are being affected in so many big and small ways, but we have an opportunity to gather and support each other. Let’s meet online in a safe space: to check in with each other and to share how this past month has been for us. We will use the large group and small group format to talk about the changes in our lives, our levels of support, our needs and ways to build connection.

 Please contact Robert Younger with any questions or to be added to our email list for Monday zoom meetings.

Santa Fe Bring A Buddy on Zoom Wednesday June 10, 6:30 to 8pm.

THORNS and BUDS  These days! What’s convenient? What’s inconvenient?

Wholeheartedness is a precious gift…Let’s spend the evening sharing our thorns and buds that we hold in this time of our lives.

Hosted by Glenn Dickter, a retired small business owner certified as a Compassionate Listening facilitator. He works with men in prison as part of the Alternatives to Violence Project, and has been involved for 25 years with The Mankind Project. Glenn has been a frequent attendee at Santa Fe Bring a Buddy events. To register/receive the Zoom access code, please email Victor LaCerva ( no later than June 8, with BRING A BUDDY in subject line. Limited to 18 men. Look forward to seeing you!

Man, Alive! can only stay alive with your participation…please consider!

The deadline for submissions for the summer edition of Man, Alive! is Sunday, June 14. The theme is “Growth”. Relative to that theme, Covid-19 related submissions will also be considered. Remember we need poetry, prose no longer than 1500 words, illustrations and photography. You may send submissions directly to the editor at:

Thank you!

Work is progressing really well on our new website. We’ll let you see it in all its glory with the July newsletter. Thanks to Mark Pugsley & team for all their hard work. And to Jim Connoly for years of service keeping the current one going!


Hugs from our NMMW Board: Mark Ayers, Barry Cooney, Jon Driscoll, Roger Harmon, Marc Kolman, Victor La Cerva, Mark Pugsley and Dave Robertson.


Greetings! We hope this finds you well, healthy and being of service to others. This is a new initiative by the Board to try and reduce the number of email communications you receive from NMMW.

The journey of men towards wellness is an individual and collective story, a connecting to source and wisdom within, with our inner transformation manifesting in the outer world.

Newsworthy items:

  • The Couples event has been postponed until May 2021. The Summer Gathering is still on. Look for registration info in early June.

  • You should have received a separate communication about upcoming NMMW sponsored ZOOM events. Check them out!

  • We remain hopeful that both the Santa Fe and Albuquerque Bring a Buddy evening events will resume as “in the flesh” gatherings in June.

  • Some of you may have received calls from Board members over the past few weeks. Most have found this reaching out to be extremely beneficial for both parties. This initiative was started by the Board to seek input on improving what is offered by NMMW.

  • Man Alive! summer edition call for submissions. The deadline is June 14th. Topic will be Growth. Poetry, prose (max 1500 words) drawings and photos all welcome. Especially interested in pieces reflecting CoVid19 resiliency. Questions? contact Hank Blackwell 505-551-2400 or

  • Progress continues on a new website. We hope to have it up and running by June.

  • We are still working on diversity outreach and helping men get into groups. Contact Dave Robertson in Albuquerque (505) 803-6242/ Email: and Barry Cooney (505) 220-6657/ Email: in Santa Fe if you have openings or know of someone seeking to join a group.

  • We are continuing to expand our Social Media presence. Here are some guidelines for creating short video pieces for NMMW to use on its pages. Click on these links to see two samples:

Video Criteria

  • Orientation: Landscape
  • Time: 3 minutes to be edited down to 30 Seconds
  • Sound: Be aware of background noise, wind etc. Clarity. Indoors preferred.
  • Background: Clean without distractions coming out of head.
  • Quality: HD
  • Lighting: Frontal or face without light sources behind face – avoid backlighting
  • Stability: Be aware of camera shake. If available, use tripod or table.
  • Editing: We will be editing video so don’t worry about it not being perfect. Give us several (5-10) takes. W can combine them together into one good video.
  • Delivering Files: Transfer full resolution to PC and send to Dropbox


Hugs from our NMMW Board: Mark Ayers, Barry Cooney, Jon Driscoll, Roger Harmon, Marc Kolman, Victor La Cerva, Mark Pugsley and Dave Robertson.


(Updated March 16, 2020)

Dear good men,

Since CoVid 19 has finally been confirmed as being in NM, the Department of Health has advised against holding “big gatherings.”  Although the upcoming Bring a Buddy events in both Albuquerque and Santa Fe are not especially large, they do attract some elderly folks who may be at increased risk.

The NMMW Board has decided to cancel the Spring gathering at Hummingbird. Anyone who has registered will receive a full refund. If you want us to keep your scholarship donation, please let Robert Bern and Jim Connoly know, and your refund will be adjusted accordingly.

The ABQ Bring a Buddy committee has unanimously decided that we should cancel future Tuesday evening Bring A Buddy events, starting with the April 7th event. Everyone’s physical safety is of upmost importance and we feel that hosting meetings would not be wise at this time. They will be in touch via email when it is safe to resume our events. Please be careful and we look forward to seeing you and your buddies in the near future.

The Santa Fe April 21 Bring a Buddy event is also cancelled.

The late May couples gathering is still a go, as is the summer gathering, and we will monitor events to decide if that needs to change.

Victor puts out short weekly free podcasts, and the last few have been on coronavirus—with his public health medical hat on in terms of what to expect and how to protect oneself and one’s family. If you wish to sign up, you can do so at  Proper hand washing is king! Social distance, or better compassionate spaciousness (6 feet) when prudent, particularly if you are over 55 with a chronic heart or lung disease. This is a lung disease: if you have a runny nose or nasal congestion with other symptoms, you most likely do NOT have coronavirus infection.

The Health Department has a toll free number if you have questions or concerns about getting tested. 855-600-3453.

They also developed this questionnaire – designed to assist facilities with a large number of elderly – that may also be useful to help you “self assess” your current risk:


In response to concerns regarding COVID-19 (coronavirus disease 2019), and in accordance with guidance issued by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), this facility is screening all visitors for certain risk factors before entrance is allowed. Facilities may restrict or limit visitation rights for reasonable clinical and safety reasons, specifically to prevent community associated infection or communicable disease transmission to the residents. See 42 CFR §483.10(f)(4).

Please answer the following questions and certify your answers by signing below:

QUESTIONS – Answer each question YES or NO

  1. Have you traveled internationally in the last 14 days to any currently designated by the CDC as a high-risk location for COVID-19*?
  2. Have you had signs of a respiratory infection in the last 14 days, such as a fever, cough and/or sore throat?
  3. Have you had contact with anyone who has been diagnosed with, or screened for COVID-19?
  4. Have you traveled to another state with widespread community
    transmission of COVID-19 i
love and hugs and we will all get through this!
your NMMW Board:
Mark Ayers
Barry Cooney
Jon Driscoll
Roger Harmon
Marc Kolman
Victor La Cerva
Mark Pugsley
Dave Robertson