I’m adding this post to NMMW in the “Men’s Musings” at the request of several of the men who attended the 2012 NMMW Summer Gathering at Jack’s Creek campground. In our closing talking circle, I brought up Don Miguel Ruiz’ classic book The Four Agreements as one of the important tools that I use on an almost daily basis to keep my life and my place in the world in perspective. When I mentioned that I had written a two-page summary (for the impatient), several of the guys asked if I could make it available through the web site. This post is the result of that request. For the really, really impatient, here are the four agreements in a numbered list:

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  2. Don’t take anything personally.
  3. Don’t make assumptions.
  4. Always do your best.

If you would like more of an explanation of what these really mean, please download the two page Acrobat PDF, The Four Agreements.  If you really want the whole story (highly recommended) I’d suggest purchasing the book.  It is under $10 from and well worth it.

I hope you find this of value.  Feedback may be sent to me at  Thanks.

Jim Connolly