Registration is open as of February 14, 2018 for the Couples Gathering . . .

Deepening Intimacy 

A NMMW Couples Gathering

Corrales, NM ~ May 18-20, 2018

Many of you have shared your desire to bring your partner to a “Men’s Wellness Gathering” and now is your chance!

Join a small gathering of couples to explore deepening relational intimacy in a safe and supportive environment.  The weekend will be facilitated by two couples. We will cover a range of experiential communication and connection activities. Together you will learn, experiment and enliven essential aspects of your relationship intimacy: intellectual, physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual. Be prepared for much fun and laughter as well.

All sexual orientations and couple configurations are welcome and encouraged to attend.

Last year’s Couples Gathering was a rich and amazing journey of relationship for all who attended, and we’re excited to share this experience with you and your loved one.

photos by Joseph Woods

Registration is now open. Space is limited and promises to fill up fast for the 2018 NMMW Couples Gathering. We are very lucky again to have been offered the beautiful home of Chittak and Ambra Caldwell for this year’s event.

We have many ideas for this event and are in process of creating the content. Please let us know what you would like to explore that could bring a deeper level of meaning and connection to your relationship.   There is a place to make suggestions on the registration forms (both online and mail-in versions).

The couples gathering will be limited to 14 couples, including the leaders. Registration will be accepted on a first come, first serve basis and may be done online (with payment by credit card) or by mail-in (with payment by check).  Click here to register and pay onlineClick here do download and fill out the printable registration form which you then mail to the address on the form with your check.  Upon receipt of your registration and payment we will send an email confirmation of your place in the Gathering.  Also included for download is a flyer about the gathering and printable registration form so you may share information about the gathering with friends.

The cost of the Gathering will be $190 per couple, which will cover the cost of materials, catered meals at lunch and dinner, snacks, and clean up after the Gathering.  Friday dinner will be a potluck.  More logistical details, directions, etc. will be forwarded as the date gets closer.

Breakfasts and lodging will be up to you.  We hope that local registrants will open their homes to out of town participants to keep the cost of lodging to a minimum.

Come join us and celebrate the magic and mystery of your relationship.

We look forward to seeing you in May. For further information please contact Mark at mpugsley@mac.com (or 505-715-2011) or Bruce at bruceberlin45@gmail.com (or 505-577-4686).  For a woman’s perspective, please connect with Margaret Lubalin at mlubalin@gmail.com (or 917-680-0275).

Mark and Laurie Pugsler
Bruce Berlin and Margaret Lubalin


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Registration opens January 2nd for the

29th Annual NM Men’s Wellness Winter Gathering

February 22 – 26, 2018

Resilience

Uwe Schroeter and Lawrence Cook

 


“If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces.”
 ― Shane L. Koyczan

“I think there are things that we can all do to bild resilience in ourselves,
but also to build resilience in each other.”
― Sheryl Sandburg

Will there be snow in the Basin for our Gathering?  How am I going to get everything done with all of these distractions?  Could there be another war?  Keeping the faith is what we need to do in these times and resilience is what we urgently need for it.  At this year’s NMMW Winter Gathering, our evening talking circles will focus on resilience.  Please be prepared to share your personal experiences on the balance of physical, mental and emotional flexibility and hardiness.

Please join us for the 29th NMMW Winter Gathering.  We will be active during the day, starting with morning meditation and/or Qigong.  We will have outings into the surrounding wilderness on snow shoes and skis.  We will play games, listen to and make music, and prepare and share communal meals.  Registration is now open.  For more information please contact:

Uwe Schroeter   uweschroeter@comcast.net        (505) 352-9258
Lawrence Cook  rlcook44@msn.com                       (505) 898-2206


Registration is now open. 

A downloadable flyer (Acrobat PDF) is available by clicking on this link: 2018 NMMW Winter Gathering Announcement.  Please share this with anyone you think might be interested in participating.

A one-page registration form is available by clicking here.  This form may be printed out and mailed in by postal mail or filled out with Adobe Acrobat Reader, saved and sent in as an Email attachment.  Both types of address are included in the form.

Date: February 22-28, 2018
Location:
Cook’s Cabin, Blanco Basin, CO
Arrival: Thursday or Friday
Departure: Sunday or Monday

Charges (please pay by cash or check at Cook’s Cabin): $25 per person per night.  Please bring groceries for shared meals.  Please voice your opinion on your registration form on the coordination of the preparation of breakfasts and dinners.  Lunches will be each individual’s responsibility.

Due to space limitations, there is a limit of 20 participants.  Registrations will be accepted on a first‐come, first-served basis (with a waiting list beyond that).  Please send your registration form as soon as you can.

Please mail or email the completed Registration Form to:

Via Regular Mail:

Uwe Schroeter
Apt. No. 2824
6800 Vista del Norte Road NE
Albuquerque, NM 87113

Via Email:

uweschroeter@comcast.net

After your registration form is received, we will contact you with directions and other details about the weekend.  For more information please contact:

Uwe Schroeter uweschroeter@comcast.net (505) 352-9258
Lawrence Cook rlcook44@msn.com (505) 898-2206

Cook's Cabin (Photo by Uwe Schroeter)

The dates and locations for major events for 2018 are set and listed below! Details, including themes, leader contacts, details and links to event web pages, and sign up info will be posted and linked here as they become available. All NMMW events are open to and inclusive of all men regardless of age, ethnicity, race and sexual orientation.  Check back as we add details as they become available.

Winter Gathering

    • Thursday, February 22rd through Monday, February 26th
      (attend as many days as you choose)
    • Cook’s Cabin, Blanco Basin, Colorado
    • Theme: “Resilience”
    • Registration will open on January 2nd, 2018
    • Contacts: Lawrence Cook (rlcook@msn.com)  or Uwe Schroeter (uweschroeter@comcast.net)

Bring a Buddy Events

  • “Bring a Buddy” events are short activities held approximately monthly in Santa Fe or Albuquerque that are designed to introduce new Men to the kind of work that we do to develop strong, healthy male relationships and introduce issues of interest to men in our modern changing world.  These events are always free. Details about location, time and topic will be posted on our main web page as they are available.

Spring Retreat

  • Friday, April 13th through Sunday, April 15th
  • Hummingbird Music Camp, just north of Jemez Springs, New Mexico
  • Theme: “Sex & Intimacy: Fifty Shades of Light and Shadow”
    Repression, shame, first sex, the hunt, ecstasy, intimacy, aging sexuality. You won’t want to miss this one, as we delve into the healthy and unhealthy aspects of these vital areas of our lives. We will move from secrecy to authenticity together, from the wounded Lover to conscious, empowered masculinity. All in one weekend! Well, maybe just some progress on the path….
  • Contact: Marc Pugsley (mpugsley@mac.com) or Victor LaCerva (heartsongsvittorio@gmail.com)
  • Registration will open in February.  Registration limited to 30 men.

Fathers and Sons Gathering

Couple’s Weekend

  • Date: Friday, May 18th through Sunday, May 20th
  • Location: In Albuquerque at the home of David and Ambra Caldwell
  • Theme: To be announced
  • Contacts: Mark Pugsley (mpugsley@mac.com) or Bruce Berlin (bruceberlin45@gmail.com)

Summer Gathering

  • Date: Friday, July 20th through Sunday, July 22th
    (Thursday, July 19th optional extra camping night)
  • Location: Jack’s Creek Campground, Pecos Valley, New Mexico
  • Theme: To be announced
  • Contact: Marc Choyt (reflective@cybermesa.com)

Women and Men’s Wellness Day

  • Date: in September 8, 2018 from 9am to 6pm
  • Location: Santa Fe (details to be announced)
  • Theme: An exploration gender relationships to be led by Shell Goldstein and Narawa Stein
  • Contact: Shell Goldman (shellgoldman@gmail.com)

Fall Conference

  • Date: Thursday October 25th through Sunday, October 28th
  • Location: Ghost Ranch Conference Center, Abiquiu, New Mexico
  • Theme: TBD
  • Contact: Mark Pugsley (mpugsley@mac.com) or David River (dbriver@gmail.com)

Anyone having changes, additions, or corrections to this page, please contact webmaster Jim Connolly via Email to webmaster@nmmw.org.

THE 30TH NEW MEXICO MEN’S WELLNESS

FALL CONFERENCE

WITH THE THEME OF

“FRIENDSHIP: MEN IN COMMUNITY”

 OCTOBER 23-26, 2014

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The 30th New Mexico Men’s Wellness Conference was held October 23-26, 2014 at Ghost Ranch in Abiquiu, New Mexico.  Over the four days the theme of “Friendship – Men in Community” was explored in depth from many perspectives.  Almost a quarter of the men participating were new to a Men’s Wellness event with over 100 in attendance.  Quite a few men invited friends from many-year relationships, some who had known each other for over 60 years!  In addition, many men left the Conference with newly found friends, ready to take what they learned into the world and build new friendships there.

This year for the first time, this page, which was the “registration” and information page for the Conference has been turned into a page about the Conference to be shared with the participants and anyone who happens upon it on this web site.  For participants, it is a spot to reflect on the weekend and perhaps share their reflections on it in the comments section at the end.  For others we hope that you will learn something about the annual New Mexico Men’s Wellness Conference is about and what we do as an organization to help men grow in healthy community with other men, and to take that community into the world of their everyday lives.

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Sunset at Ghost Ranch

 

Leadership and Planning for the Fall Conference

The NMMW Conference is unique in that it does not draw upon outside “experts” to provide information that we “need” to know, but relies on a planning process involving a large number of men from the community who contribute their ideas, energy, creativity and talents to craft a home-grown program around the theme of the conference.  Thirty years ago Victor LaCerva started New Mexico Men’s Wellness and initiated John-Gerversthe first Conference with a focus on men and their health. Our mission continues  “to nurture wellness in body, mind and spirit through the sharing of experiences across generations and cultures in safe, collaborative settings”.  Our strength is the participatory nature of Men’s Wellness.  This year’s leader John Gervers with co-leader and successor Charlie Lamson started the planning process in late July and continued with meetings every two weeks in Santa Fe and Albuquerque until just before the conference.  The heart of the Conference is this Planning Committee, open to all intended participants, who volunteer their time to develop the theme, create the sessions, and lead various elements of the Conference.  This year more than 30 men participated in the planning process developing the three days of themed “blocks” around the overall topic of Friendship with the block leaders drawn from the participants who planned the conference.

Eclipse at Ghost RanchAn Auspicious Opening

The conference opened on Thursday, October 31.  During the registration time, there was a partial eclipse of the Sun that felt like a significant transition leading into the weekend.  Joseph Woods captured the photo at left with a solar filter on his small telescope that shows a couple of sunspots that are about as large as the planet Jupiter (Click on the image to see it full size).  A great start to the 30th Fall Conference!

 The Buddha was asked, “Is good friendship, good companionship, good comradeship a part of the holy life?”

The Buddha answered, “No, good friendship, good companionship, good comradeship are not ‘a part of the holy life’, they are the entire holy life”.

 

The Conference Organization and “Blocks”**:

Thursday Evening: Welcome, Opening Ceremony, Introduction to the theme of “Friendship”, Breakout of small groups and first meeting, “Assessing our Friendships,” followed by Closing Circle.

Early Friday Morning: Optional exercises including Meditation, Qi Gong and Yoga.

ConversationFriday Morning: Announcements, Warm-Up Exercise.  Block topic on “Isolation and Other Barriers to Friendship” to explore how we inhibit the initiation and development of friendships.

Friday Afternoon: Block topic on “Conflict Resolution.”  Skit: Friends in conflict Cassius and Brutus from Shakespeare’s “Julius Caesar”; Exercise to explore unresolved conflicts in our relationships with other men.
Late afternoon optional activities including Art Project, Poetry Circle, Jam Sessions (Electric indoors, Ukelele outdoors), Hiking.

Friday Evening: Choice of Activities including: Passing of the Sword Ceremony, Outdoor Fire Circle and Drumming Circle, Sweat Lodge (Hot), and Movies with the theme of Friendship.

Early Saturday Morning: Grief Circle to honor and remember those lost to us

Saturday Morning: Announcements.  Early Block on “Nurturing Old Friendships”; Later block on “Creating New Friendships”

Saturday Afternoon: Block on the topic of “Creating Friendships with Women.”
Late afternoon optional activities including Art Project, Sweat Lodge (Mild), Yoga, Hiking, etc.  NMMW Annual Meeting just before dinner.

Saturday Evening: Elders and Sages Ceremonies, followed by “Saturday Night Live” — performances, music, skits, drumming and silliness.

Early Sunday Morning: Optional exercises including Meditation, Qi Gong and Yoga.

Passing-LeadershipSunday Morning: Announcements, Passing of NMMW Small Group Drum and Compassionate Hands, followed by Large Talking Circle with reactions about the weekend from all who wish to share.  Final small group meeting with take-aways and commitments.  Walk to Canyon for Closing Ceremony and Passing of the Leadership.

** “Blocks” vary in structure, but generally introduce the topic in the large circle of men then break into dyads or small groups to explore the topic in more depth, sometimes returning to the large group at the conclusion of the block.  Blocks vary in length but are typically 90 minutes to 2 hours in length.

A song about friendship, Through Your Eyes was written by David Kuenzli specifically for this conference and was distributed to all conference attendees.  It is linked here for playing or downloading.  It may be freely played and shared but please give David credit if you do share it.

30 Years of NMMW Conference Leaders

While not all of the former Conference leaders could attend, there was a large contingent of former leaders of the NMMW conferences represented at this 30th Conference.  In the photo below from left to right are John Gervers, Mike Pedroncelli, Kurt Faust, Shel Goldman, Michael Wilkinson, Lawrence Cook, Charles Fisher, Phil Davis, Michael Kaufman, Barry Cooney, David Johnson, David Kuenzli, and Victor LaCerva.  Also attending (but not in the photo) were Mark Bennett and Barry McIntosh.  (Click on the photo to see it full size)

Past-Leaders

Scholarships

The costs of the Conference are as low as we can get from Ghost Ranch, and by far the bulk of the fees go toward meals, lodging and use of the facilities.  We want men of all financial circumstances to be able to participate in the Conference if they wish to do so.  For this reason we encourage men who want to participate but need some assistance to connect with the conference leaders for assistance.  We also encourage men who can contribute to the scholarship fund to do so, to support those men who need it.  NMMW is a 501(c)3 nonprofit educational corporation, and all donations to the scholarship fund or to other activities of the organization are deductible as charitable contributions.  There is a page on this web site that will accept online donations with our gratitude: http://www.nmmw.org/about/donate/

For your feedback or to get more information:

Call-to-closingThis page is open for comments.  Please see the comments section at the end of the page.  Some men who participated in the conference have already submitted comments to webmaster Jim Connolly (jrc347@gmail.com) who has incorporated them into the comments.  Comments may be submitted by anyone who has registered for access on this website and blog.  Click on this link and you will be taken in a new “tab” or window to a page that will help you to register for the site so that you may post comments or other materials that you would like to contribute to the NMMW community via this website and blog.  We encourage registration so that this site can benefit from your input, but if you would like to just have your comment about this page posted you can send it via Email to Jim Connolly via his Email address and he will get it posted for you.  You must include your actual name and contact information with your Email, but it does NOT need to be included in your comment; just clarify that when you send your Email.

If you have any feedback or suggestions for this year’s leader (John) or for the leader of next year’s (31st) Conference (Charlie) please contact them:

For more Online Information about NMMW:

 

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(Most of the photos on this page are from Uwe Schroeter with one from Joseph Woods.)