NMMW Father/Daughter Gathering for 2017

Mr. Edward Bear (Pooh) cordially invites you to:

“Have a Little Faith in Me”

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& What Do We Need From Each Other?

 The Annual Father/Daughter Gathering

Ghost Ranch, New Mexico

May 26-29, 2017

When your back’s against the wall
just turn around and you will see
I’ll be there to catch your fall
so have a little faith in me

The New Mexico Men’s Wellness Father/Daughter Gathering offers a safe environment for Fathers and Daughters to explore their special relationship away from the distractions of day-to-day family dynamics and all-round busy-ness.

The Father/Daughter Gathering has been held since 2005, and has become one of NM Men’s Wellness’ core events. The mission of the Gathering is to enable Fathers and Daughters to gather, honor, celebrate, and grow in their unique relationship.

As we approach the 12th Gathering, one topic has come up over the years: how can father and daughter best support each other? As our father-daughter relationships mature, and we face, or prepare to face, a variety of challenges, such as – just to name a few – overcoming past differences, distance (physical or emotional), finding time for each other, the aging process, health issues, how can we help one another? Or ask for the help we might need? What gets in the way of giving or asking for help? How will we handle a possible role reversal in caring? What sort of support can we offer? Emotional? Physical? Financial?

Winnie-the-Pooh and his collection of friends seem to know plenty about how to support one another, in spite of their widely differing personalities. Some of their tales will form a loose “jumping off point” for exploring and evaluating the areas where we might need support, the ways we think we want to provide support, and the means to communicate our needs to one another.

This year’s Gathering is scheduled over the Memorial Day weekend, running from late Friday afternoon May 26 through Monday morning, May 29. This three night framework allows time for both structured events and for relaxing.  The registration fee will include three nights lodging in simple yet comfortable accommodations, all meals  from Friday evening through Monday morning, all gathering activities related to the conference, and access to all of the hiking trails, library, museums and other Ghost Ranch facilities.

REGISTRATION

Registration is open. If you’d like to attend, please register by the registration deadline March 20th.

The cost for the Gathering is $310 per person and includes 3 nights lodging in simple but comfortable accommodations, 8 meals (Friday evening through Monday morning), all gathering activities and a  T-shirt designed just for this year’s Gathering.  Access to all of the hiking trails, library, museums and other Ghost Ranch facilities is also included.  Daughters must be at least 18 years of age at the time of the gathering; any exceptions to this policy must be cleared in advance by the gathering leaders (see contact information below).

Registration is open. There are two registration options – online and mail-in.

To register online, please click here to go to the registration page where you will be able to enter your information, and pay by credit card, debit card, or your personal PayPal account.

For mail-in registration, click here to download the mail-in registration form.  Once you download the form, you can type in your info with Adobe Acrobat Reader and print it out, or just print the blank form and fill it out by hand.  Please fill out one form for each person attending.  Then, mail the forms with your check. Address information is on the form.

Registration is first come, first served based on when your payment is received.  Due to space limitations, we have allowed for 30 participants (15 fathers and 15 daughters) with a waiting list beyond that.

lunch-2015-RHEarly sign-up is encouraged (and greatly appreciated) to facilitate planning and logistics.  We will send details about location, directions and facilities (via Email) after your registrations are received.

SCHOLARSHIPS

Scholarship assistance is available for those in need of financial help. If you’d like to apply for a scholarship, please complete and send in both a NMMW Scholarship Request Form (available now – click the link), and a Mail-in Registration Form (coming soon, not yet available).  Both of these forms may be downloaded, filled out, saved, and sent in as e-mail attachments (or printed out and mailed) to Charles Fisher at cfisher50@gmail.com. They may be optionally printed and mailed to the address on the registration form.  Applicants may delay payment until the scholarship is approved. You are encouraged to send everything in as far in advance of the retreat as possible.  Early submission will improve your chances of receiving assistance.

For more information or for news of the Gathering, please contact:

Charles Fisher at cfisher50@gmail.com

Abi Fisher Lewis at abi.fisher@gmail.com

Jan Unna at janu1@me.com

Kate Unna at kate.unna@gmail.com

 

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The Giving Tree

Exploring the “Give” and “Take” of our Relationships


The Annual Father/Daughter Gathering

Ghost Ranch, New Mexico

May 22-25, 2015


Registration for the Annual Father/Daughter Gathering at Ghost Ranch has now closed. After the gathering has taken place, we plan to replace this page with a page about the Gathering’s events to share with the participants and the Men’s Wellness Community.

Note: You may click on photos to see higher resolution versions, then use your “back” button to return to this page.


 About the Father-Daughter Gathering:

The Annual Father/Daughter Gathering (sponsored by New Mexico Men’s Wellness) is designed to provide a protected and supportive retreat environment for Fathers and Daughters to explore their distinctive relationship away from the distractions of day-to-day family dynamics.

Giving TreeShel Silverstein’s “The Giving Tree” is the story of love between boy and a tree over the course of both of their lives.  Disguised as a simple children’s book, this story touches on some serious issues about giving, unconditional love, and reciprocation in a loving relationship.  With this story as a frame, we plan to explore the evolution of our Father – Daughter relationships over time, both one-on-one and within the supportive environment of other daughters and dads.

The Father/Daughter Gathering has been an annual event for more than five years, and has become one of the core activities of NM Men’s Wellness. The mission of the Gathering is to enable Fathers and Daughters to gather, honor, celebrate and grow in their special relationship.

The Gathering is scheduled over the Memorial Day weekend, running from late Friday afternoon May 22 through Monday morning, May 25; the three night framework allows time for structured events while keeping the weekend relaxed and relaxing.  The fee for the Gathering includes three nights lodging in simple yet comfortable accommodations, all meals from Friday evening through Monday morning, all activities related to the conference and access to all of the hiking trails, library, museums and other Ghost Ranch facilities.  A limited number of partial scholarships are available for those who need it.  We hope you will consider being a part of this special program.

©Amiel Gervers Photography

Registration:

Registration is available now, and must be received no later than April 15th.  The cost for the Gathering is $280 and includes 3 nights lodging in simple and comfortable facilities, 8 meals, all gathering activities and a  T-shirt designed just for this year’s Gathering.

This year we have an all-online option for registration (linked here) where you can fill out a form to register and pay with a credit card or PayPal.  You may also register (as always) by filling out a registration form (click here to download) and sending it with a check in the mail.  Registration is first come, first served based on when your payment is received. Due to space limitations, we have allowed for 30 participants (15 Father-Daughter pairs) with a waiting list beyond that.

©Amiel Gervers PhotographyDaughters must be at least 18 years of age at the time of the gathering.  A very limited amount of partial scholarship funding is available for those who need it to attend; scholarship information and an application form are linked at the bottom of this page.

For More Information:

Contact:
Jim Connolly: jrc347@gmail.com (505) 550-2433 or
Charles Fisher: cfisher50@gmail.com

For a daughter’s perspective, Contact:
Amanda Connolly: amanda.connolly@gmail.com or
Abi Fisher: abi.fisher@gmail.com

©Amiel Gervers Photography

Recommend the Gathering to Others:

Please help spread the word to friends and associates who you think might be interested in participating with their father or daughter.  Please do this immediately, as schedules usually require some coordinating.  We have a downloadable one-page flyer that is suitable for posting in any visible public space (your office, school, community bulleting board at the COOP, Whole Foods, your church lobby, etc.).  Click Father Daughter 2015 Flyer to download it.

The address of this web page is: http://www.nmmw.org/f-d-2015.  Send this “link” address to anyone who you think could be interested.

 

 

Some comments from participants in previous Father & Daughter Gatherings:

©Amiel Gervers Photography“It was fun, it was challenging, and it led to a break-through in our relationship that has brought us closer together.”

“Spending three days with my adult daughter was just a wonderful experience of getting to know her and appreciate her in an entirely new way.”

“It opened windows into a different way of seeing and being with each other and has changed the dynamic of our relationship completely!”
©Amiel Gervers Photography

“The father daughter gathering was a special opportunity to grow closer to my father, sharing our feelings and our hopes for moving forward, conscious of the relationship that we want to build with each other.”©Amiel Gervers Photography

“The support of other fathers and daughters helped my daughter and I to connect in a way that was (and still is) truly special.  I can’t recommend this weekend strongly enough.”

Scholarship Information:

While the fees for the Gathering are very reasonable (and cover costs with very little to spare), we understand that the cost can still be a significant financial burden.  We want as many fathers and daughters who want to participate to be able to do so.  Those who need a scholarship should contact Jim Connolly as soon as possible (contact information above) so lines of communication may be opened.  The application procedure will be found at the end of this section.

We also encourage those who can contribute to the scholarship fund to do so to support those who need it.  Since registration costs are kept to the bare minimum (largely controlled by the cost of our host facilities) and we do not have any endowments for scholarships, donations to the scholarship fund are required to enable us to make scholarships available.   NMMW is a 501(c)3 nonprofit educational corporation, and all donations to the scholarship fund or other activities of the organization are deductible as charitable contributions to the fullest extent of the law.  Scholarship Donations to NMMW can be made on this web site on the following page: http://www.nmmw.org/about/donate/

©Amiel Gervers PhotographyIf you are applying for Scholarship assistance to attend the Gathering, please download the NMMW Scholarship Request and complete it on your computer (with Adobe Acrobat Reader — use the link below to install it if needed — so that it can be saved and attached to an Email).  This should be accompanied by a completed Father Daughter Gathering registration form (also and Adobe Acrobat Form) with the fee amounts left blank for each person applying for assistance.  Please note that because of fund limitations, only partial scholarship assistance will be available.  To expedite the application process, please send the completed forms directly to Jim Connolly via Email to jrc347@gmail.com (preferred) or by regular mail to: Jim Connolly, 2932 Brooksmoor Dr. SW, Albuquerque, NM 87121.  Scholarship requests must be received by no later than April 1, 2015.

Photo credits: Tree Photo (top of page) by Roger Harmon.  All other Photos on this page by Amiel Gervers (©Amiel Gervers Photography). Line drawings from Shel Silverstein’s “The Giving Tree”.


If you need to download Adobe’s Free Acrobat Reader (very useful for lots of things including completing your registration form) please click on the logo below which will take you to Adobe’s site and assist with getting it installed:

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We are sorry to report that because of unexpectedly low registration numbers we have been forced to postpone the Father/Daughter  Gathering for 2014.  We expect to hold the gathering in 2015 with a similar time frame using the same theme and will post detailed information as soon as we have it.  Many thanks to those who have attended and we hope to see you (and some new folks too) next year.


The Giving Tree

Exploring the “Give” and “Take of our Relationships


The Annual Father/Daughter Gathering

Ghost Ranch, New Mexico

May 23-26, 2014


Registration is now open for the Annual Father/Daughter Gathering at Ghost Ranch.  Please see the links further down this page to download a registration form and other information that you can print and/or pass on to friends who you think could benefit from this wonderful weekend.

Note: You may click on photos to see higher resolution versions, then use your “back” button to return to this page.


 About the Father-Daughter Gathering:

The Annual Father/Daughter Gathering (sponsored by New Mexico Men’s Wellness) is designed to provide a protected and supportive retreat environment for Fathers and Daughters to explore their distinctive relationship away from the distractions of day-to-day family dynamics.

Giving TreeShel Silverstein’s “The Giving Tree” is the story of love between boy and a tree over the course of both of their lives.  Disguised as a simple children’s book, this story touches on some serious issues about giving, unconditional love, and reciprocation in a loving relationship.  With this story as a frame, we plan to explore the evolution of our Father – Daughter relationships over time, both one-on-one and within the supportive environment of other daughters and dads.

The Father/Daughter Gathering has been an annual event for more than five years, and has become one of the core activities of NM Men’s Wellness. The mission of the Gathering is to enable Fathers and Daughters to gather, honor, celebrate and grow in their special relationship.

The Gathering is scheduled over the Memorial Day weekend, running from late Friday afternoon May 23 through Monday morning, May 26; the three night framework allows time for structured events while keeping the weekend relaxed and relaxing.  The fee for the Gathering includes three nights lodging in simple yet comfortable accommodations, all meals from Friday evening through Monday morning, all activities related to the conference and access to all of the hiking trails, library, museums and other Ghost Ranch facilities.  Partial scholarship assistance is available for those who need it.  We hope you will consider being a part of this special program.

©Amiel Gervers Photography

Register2Registration:

The registration form is linked here.  Please complete a registration form for each person attending.  If you download and save the form to your own computer, you can fill it out, save it and print it using Adobe Acrobat Reader. (If needed, see the link at the end of this page that will let you go to Adobe’s site to download and install the reader.)  Forms may be printed and filled out (or filled out on your computer and then printed).    Please complete a separate form for each person attending.

The registration deadline is April 15.  The registration fee is $270 per person, and includes all activities, lodging, meals, and a T-shirt.  All ©Amiel Gervers Photographyregistrations with checks must be postmarked by Tuesday, April 15, 2014.  Ghost Ranch requires that we have a full count of attendees thirty days ahead of our event, so we need registrations in on time.  Mail registration form and check, made payable to “NM Men’s Wellness”, to:

NM Father-Daughter Gathering
c/o James Connolly
2932 Brooksmoor Dr. SW
Albuquerque, NM 87121

Daughters must be at least 18 years of age at the time of the gathering.  Space for the gathering is limited, so register now. Some partial scholarship funding is available for those who need it to attend; please see the information about scholarships at the bottom of this page. Information about how to apply is included.

©Amiel Gervers PhotographyFor more information:

Contact:
Jim Connolly: jrc347@gmail.com (505) 550-2433 or
Charles Fisher: cfisher@3lionslawyer.com

For a daughter’s perspective, Contact:
Amanda Connolly: amanda.connolly@gmail.com or
Abi Fisher: abi.fisher@gmail.com

Recommend the Gathering to Others:

Please help spread the word to friends and associates who you think might be interested in participating with their father or daughter.  Please do this immediately, as schedules usually require some coordinating.  We have two downloadable “resources” that can help you to do this:

  • A one-page printable “Flyer” is available that is suitable for posting anywhere in any visible public space (your office, school, community bulletin board at the COOP, Whole Foods, your church lobby, etc.).  It contains the link to this web page and some contact information.  Click Father Daughter Flyer 2014 to download it.
  • A three-page printable announcement with registration form that can be distributed to friends and associates who you think might be interested in participating with their father or daughter.  It includes most of what is on this web page plus the registration form; click Father Daughter Announcement 2014 to download it.
  • The address of this web page is: http://www.nmmw.org/f-d-2014.  Send this “link” address to anyone who you think could be interested.

Some comments from participants in previous Father & Daughter Gatherings:

©Amiel Gervers Photography“It was fun, it was challenging, and it led to a break-through in our relationship that has brought us closer together.”

“Spending three days with my adult daughter was just a wonderful experience of getting to know her and appreciate her in an entirely new way.”

“It opened windows into a different way of seeing and being with each other and has changed the dynamic of our relationship completely!”
©Amiel Gervers Photography

“The father daughter gathering was a special opportunity to grow closer to my father, sharing our feelings and our hopes for moving forward, conscious of the relationship that we want to build with each other.”©Amiel Gervers Photography

“The support of other fathers and daughters helped my daughter and I to connect in a way that was (and still is) truly special.  I can’t recommend this weekend strongly enough.”

Scholarship Information:

While the fees for the Gathering are very reasonable (and cover costs with very little to spare), we understand that the cost can still be a significant financial burden.  We want as many fathers and daughters who want to participate to be able to do so.  For this reason we encourage those who want to participate but need some financial assistance to contact Jim Connolly (phone and Email above). We also encourage those who can contribute to the scholarship fund to do so to support those who need it.  NMMW is a 501(c)3 nonprofit educational corporation, and all donations to the scholarship fund or other activities of the organization are deductible as charitable contributions to the fullest extent of the law.

©Amiel Gervers PhotographyIf you are applying for Scholarship assistance to attend the Gathering, please download NMMW-Scholarship-Req-Form and complete it on your computer (with Adobe Acrobat Reader — use the link below to install it — so that it can be saved and attached to an Email).  To expedite the application process, please send the completed form directly to Jim Connolly via Email to jrc347@gmail.com (preferred) or by regular mail to: Jim Connolly, 2932 Brooksmoor Dr. SW, Albuquerque, NM 87121.  Please submit scholarship requests by no later than April 1, 2014.

Photo credits: Tree Photo (top of page) by Roger Harmon.  All other Photos on this page by Amiel Gervers (©Amiel Gervers Photography). Line drawings from Shel Silverstein’s “The Giving Tree”.


If you need to download Adobe’s Free Acrobat Reader (very useful for lots of things including completing your registration form) please click on the logo below which will take you to Adobe’s site and assist with getting it installed:

Click to Download Adobe Acrobat Reader

Exploring Our Stories

The Annual Father/Daughter Gathering

Ghost Ranch, New Mexico

May 24-27, 2013


We are delighted to announce that this year’s event will include an extra day (running from Friday afternoon until Monday morning), allowing us more time together and also more free time to enjoy the remarkable opportunities at Ghost Ranch.

Each year, fathers and daughters gather to honor and celebrate their special relationship.  This year, our theme is “Exploring Our Stories”, inviting us to draw inspiration from the power of sharing our life’s stories, stories of the past, present and future.  This may be an opportunity to get to know one another in entirely new ways!

Within this theme, we will share in large and small group settings, explore topics and questions in “fishbowl” style (always a favorite) and enjoy a father-daughter lunch outing.  We will also hike and explore Ghost Ranch together, gather around a campfire and create an art project.

In all, come prepared to have fun, to learn, to grow and to connect.  This is a unique opportunity to create new depth in your father-daughter relationship.

Registration:

The registration form for the gathering is available by clicking on: 2013 Father & Daughter Registration Form. If you download and save the form to your own computer, you can fill it out, save it and print it using Adobe Acrobat Reader. (If needed, see the link at the end of this page that will let you go to Adobe’s site to download and install the reader.)  Forms may be printed and filled out (or filled out on your computer and then printed). Please complete a separate registration form for each person attending.

Registration Deadline: The early registration fee of $260 per person, available until May 1, includes lodging, meals, and a T-shirt. All registrations with checks must be received by Monday, May 20, 2013.  Mail registration form and check, made payable to NM Men’s Wellness, to:

NM Father-Daughter Gathering
c/o Gary Carlson
413 La Comunidad NW
Albuquerque, NM 87114

Daughters must be at least 18 years of age at the time of the gathering.  Space for the gathering is limited, so register now.  Partial scholarships may be available; contact Gary Carlson (below) for scholarship inquiries.

For more information:

Contact Gary Carlson: canmgary@aol.com, (505) 897-1850; or Jim Connolly: jrc347@gmail.com

For a daughter’s perspective: Contact Kelly Carlson-Reddig: kcarlson@uncc.edu; or Amanda Connolly: amanda.connolly@gmail.com

We have a newly assembled 4-page printable flyer that can be distributed to friends and associates who you think might be interested in participating with their father or daughter.  It includes most of the information found on this web page plus the registration form and invitation “coupon”; it may be downloaded here by clicking on Father-Daughter 2013 Printable Brochure.

Some comments from participants in previous Father & Daughter Gatherings:

“It was fun, it was challenging, and it led to a break-through in our relationship that has brought us closer together.”

“Spending three days with my adult daughter was just a wonderful experience of getting to know her and appreciate her in an entirely new way.”

“It opened windows into a different way of seeing and being with each other and has changed the dynamic of our relationship completely!”

“The father daughter gathering was a special opportunity to grow closer to my father, sharing our feelings and our hopes for moving forward, conscious of the relationship that we want to build with each other.”

If you’d like a special invitation that you can send Click here to download a special invitation that you can send on to your daughter (or father if you’re a daughter reading this) to invite them to share this special weekend with you. You’ll be glad you did!

If you need to download Adobe’s Free Acrobat Reader (very useful for lots of things including completing your registration form) please click on the logo below which will take you to Adobe’s site and assist with getting it installed:

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