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Deepening Intimacy 

A NMMW Couples Gathering

Corrales, NM ~ May 18-20, 2018

We would like to invite you and your partner to be part of the upcoming NMMW Deepening Intimacy Weekend.

Join a small gathering of couples to explore deepening relationship intimacy in a safe and supportive environment.  Together you will experiment and discover ways to enliven essential aspects of your relationship. Be prepared for much fun and laughter, as well.

Last year’s Couples Gathering was a rich and joyful journey of relationship for all who attended, and we’re excited to share this experience with you and your loved one this May.

The gathering will be limited to 12 couples, including the leaders.* All sexual orientations and couple configurations are encouraged to attend.

photos by Joseph Woods

There are only a couple spots left, so please register asap to make sure there is a place for you.  You may register (and pay) online or mail in a printed registration with your check; both methods are linked below.  Once we receive your registration and payment, we will send confirmation of your place in the Gathering.

The cost of the weekend is $190 per couple, which covers materials, catered meals at lunch and dinner, snacks, and clean up after the Gathering. Friday dinner will be a potluck.

Breakfast and lodging will be up to you.  We hope that local attendees will open their homes to out of town participants to keep the cost of lodging to a minimum. However, there is a lovely Bed and Breakfast just walking distance from Chittak and Amba’s home – http://www.noradixon.com.

Come join us and celebrate the magic and mystery of your relationship.

Registration will be accepted on a first come, first serve basis and may be done online (with payment by credit card) or by mail-in (with payment by check).  Click here to register and pay onlineClick here do download and fill out the printable registration form which you then mail to the address on the form with your check.  Upon receipt of your registration and payment we will send an email confirmation of your place in the Gathering.  Also included for download is a flyer about the gathering and printable registration form so you may share information about the gathering with friends.

The cost of the Gathering will be $190 per couple, which will cover the cost of materials, catered meals at lunch and dinner, snacks, and clean up after the Gathering.  Friday dinner will be a potluck.  More logistical details, directions, etc. will be forwarded as the date gets closer.  Breakfasts and lodging will be up to you.  We hope that local registrants will open their homes to out of town participants to keep the cost of lodging to a minimum.

For further information or questions please contact Mark at mpugsley@mac.com (or 505-715-2011) or Bruce at bruceberlin45@gmail.com (or 505-577-4686).  For a woman’s perspective, please connect with Margaret Lubalin at mlubalin@gmail.com (or 917-680-0275).

Mark and Laurie Pugsler
Bruce Berlin and Margaret Lubalin

About the Leaders of the 2018 Couples Gathering

*Mark Pugsley has been a licensed psychotherapist since 1996 with a specialty in Gestalt psychology and training in humanistic psychology, Jungian therapy, and somatic psychology. His specialties include helping couples create intimacy and relationship joy.

Laurie Pugsley has been in partnership with her husband, Mark,  for 16 years. Laurie experienced her first couples retreat last year and found the exercises helped to nurture their relationship.  Laurie feels there is a difference between looking at something and seeing it, listening to someone and hearing them.  She hopes to bring this awareness to the couples retreat.

Bruce Berlin participated in the prior two Men’s Wellness Couples Weekends with his partner, Margaret. With over 40 years of experience in men’s healing work, Bruce feels that deepening intimacy is vital to a strong relationship. A trained mediator and social change activist, he has organized and facilitated numerous gatherings and conferences on a variety of subjects.

Margaret Lubalin believes that for a relationship to thrive, it needs to be nourished. Something she found at the prior NMMW couples retreats. A poet, visual artist and writing teacher, Margaret is excited to bring her creativity to this year’s retreat. Also an activist, her current passion is building a Wall of Love, as a counterpoint to a wall that divides us.

If you need to download Adobe’s Free Acrobat Reader (very useful for lots of things including reading flyers, registration forms and stuff we will send before the gathering) please click on the logo below which will take you to Adobe’s site and assist with getting it installed:

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Registration for the Spring Retreat has CLOSED.



Sex & Intimacy:
Fifty Shades of Light and Shadow

April 13, 14 and 15, 2018

at Hummingbird Music Camp
104 Hummingbird Road, Jemez Springs NM 87025

Led by Mark Pugsley & Vittorio LaCerva

(Joseph Woods photo)

Repression, shame, first sex, the hunt, ecstasy, intimacy, aging, sexuality — we delve into the healthy and unhealthy aspects of these vital areas of our lives. We will move from secrecy to authenticity together, from the wounded Lover to conscious, empowered masculinity.

Open and inclusive to all men regardless of age, ethnicity, race, marital
status, or sexual orientation.  Limited to a total of 30 men.

We urge you to consider inviting a young man or men to this gathering.  There will be a special small group for younger men, like last year.

“For she had eyes and chose me.” — William Shakespeare, Othello

(Uwe Schroeter Photo)

(Joseph Woods photo)

Gather with a small community of men in a natural setting to explore, heal, and vitalize relationship, sex and intimacy themes over a Friday to Sunday program that will involve individual and small group experiential

activities. We all carry relational histories: a mosaic of love and wounds, light and shadow, secrets and authenticity. We will cover topics of internalized messages about sex and intimacy; recognizing instinctual masculine-feminine drives; releasing regrets and shame; clarifying and identifying our own understanding of relational integrity and authenticity.

“Your love should never be offered to the mouth of a Stranger; Only to someone who has the valor and daring to cut pieces of their soul off with a knife, then weave them into a blanket to protect you.” — Hafiz

Registration and room assignments will be between 4 and 5:30 pm Friday evening with our potluck dinner at 6:00.  We are at the North Campus.  Feel free to come to Hummingbird anytime on Friday and enjoy the land. Accommodations are double rooms (you can visit the new website to view the rooms at http://hummingbirdmusiccamp.com/about-our-camp/hummingbird-campus/north-campus/).

The cost of Hummingbird meals for the weekend is $40.  There is an optional $10 linens charge (towels, sheets & pillowcase), or you can bring your own towel, sheets and blanket (or sleeping bag) and pillow.  You may also bring a tent or sleep in your camper for $10 per night (expect freezing temperatures in April at this elevation).  See the registration forms (linked below) for a complete list of costs.  Further detailed information (with logistical details and some homework from your leaders) will be sent by Email one week prior to the retreat.

(Joseph Woods photo)

Friday night we will have our traditional pot-luck meal starting at 6:00 PM. Please bring HEALTHY food to share, a main dish, vegetable dish, or dessert. All other meals will be served by Hummingbird (Hummingbird offers vegetarian and gluten-free food options).   You may opt-out of ALL Hummingbird meals, but if opting-out, must bring your own food, pots and pans.  Flatware will be provided and a refrigerator is available.

Directions to the Camp:  http://hummingbirdmusiccamp.com/maps-and-directions/     Emergency numbers for Hummingbird: (575) 829-3060 or (575) 829-4227 (don’t count on cell phone coverage in the Jemez).

We believe that the cost of an event should not prevent anyone from participating in our events, and have scholarship funds available to support those who need it.  If you need assistance, please scroll down to the “Scholarship” section near the bottom of this page.  It contains the information you need to complete and submit a scholarship request.

“Everyone gets wounded in this world and everyone has within them some golden qualities that can serve to heal the wounds of time and the traumatic effects of human tragedy.”  — Michael Meade

How to Register for the Retreat

If you are reading this on our website, then registration for the Spring 2018 Retreat is open.  There are two options for registration, mail-in (with payment by check) or online (with payment by credit card or PayPal).   If applying for scholarship assistance, please read the details in the Scholarships section below.  If you need assistance to participate, please do not hesitate to apply for a scholarship.

Registration for the Spring Retreat has closed effective April 8, 2018.  There MAY be a few additional slots available from from late cancellations, so if you would like to be placed on a “cancellation” waiting list, please contact Bill Duncan at web244@aol.com or by phone to (505) 379-5655.

We also have a printable three-page PDF flyer (click here to download it) that includes a registration form that you may download, print and share with any friends you’d like to invite to the Retreat.  The Spring retreat can be a great, and low-cost introduction to Men’s Wellness for men of all ages and backgrounds.

“The Spring Retreat was my first experience of what New Mexico Men’s Wellness is about.  At this weekend in 2008, I met many amazing men who I still consider some of my best friends and teachers.  It is the one NMMW event that I absolutely refuse to miss” — Jim Connolly


New Mexico Men’s Wellness wants as many men as possible to participate in and benefit from our events.  For this reason we encourage new men, younger men or anyone needing financial assistance to apply for it.  We have funds available for this purpose.  To apply, please download and complete the following by clicking on the following links:

  1. A Scholarship Application Form
  2. A Mail-in Registration Form (Please complete all information and options but do not send any payment)

Those wishing to apply for a scholarship should fill out a “mail-in” registration form using Adobe Acrobat Reader (NOT the PDF viewer in their web browser), and save it on their computer.  They should also fill out a scholarship application form and save that on their computer also.  Both files should be sent to Vittorio LaCerva (heartsongsvittorio@gmail.com) for review.  The review process should take no more than a week, after which applicants will be apprised of their status.  NMMW does require some contribution with the minimum of $25.  The forms may also printed on paper, completed and mailed to: Vittorio LaCerva, 52 Zambra Way, Santa Fe, NM 87506.  Mailed-in requests will likely take a bit more time to review.

If you have any questions about the Scholarship program, please contact Vittorio via Email to heartsongsvittorio@gmail.com or by telephone at 505-983-4233.

(Joseph Woods photo)

Photo Notes: In most cases, you can see a larger version of included photos by clicking on the photos with your mouse.

If you need to download Adobe’s Free Acrobat Reader (very useful for lots of things including reading flyers, registration forms and stuff we will send before the retreat) please click on the logo below which will take you to Adobe’s site and assist with getting it installed:

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Registration opens January 2nd for the

29th Annual NM Men’s Wellness Winter Gathering

February 22 – 26, 2018


Uwe Schroeter and Lawrence Cook


“If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces.”
 ― Shane L. Koyczan

“I think there are things that we can all do to bild resilience in ourselves,
but also to build resilience in each other.”
― Sheryl Sandburg

Will there be snow in the Basin for our Gathering?  How am I going to get everything done with all of these distractions?  Could there be another war?  Keeping the faith is what we need to do in these times and resilience is what we urgently need for it.  At this year’s NMMW Winter Gathering, our evening talking circles will focus on resilience.  Please be prepared to share your personal experiences on the balance of physical, mental and emotional flexibility and hardiness.

Please join us for the 29th NMMW Winter Gathering.  We will be active during the day, starting with morning meditation and/or Qigong.  We will have outings into the surrounding wilderness on snow shoes and skis.  We will play games, listen to and make music, and prepare and share communal meals.  Registration is now open.  For more information please contact:

Uwe Schroeter   uweschroeter@comcast.net        (505) 352-9258
Lawrence Cook  rlcook44@msn.com                       (505) 898-2206

Registration is now open. 

A downloadable flyer (Acrobat PDF) is available by clicking on this link: 2018 NMMW Winter Gathering Announcement.  Please share this with anyone you think might be interested in participating.

A one-page registration form is available by clicking here.  This form may be printed out and mailed in by postal mail or filled out with Adobe Acrobat Reader, saved and sent in as an Email attachment.  Both types of address are included in the form.

Date: February 22-28, 2018
Cook’s Cabin, Blanco Basin, CO
Arrival: Thursday or Friday
Departure: Sunday or Monday

Charges (please pay by cash or check at Cook’s Cabin): $25 per person per night.  Please bring groceries for shared meals.  Please voice your opinion on your registration form on the coordination of the preparation of breakfasts and dinners.  Lunches will be each individual’s responsibility.

Due to space limitations, there is a limit of 20 participants.  Registrations will be accepted on a first‐come, first-served basis (with a waiting list beyond that).  Please send your registration form as soon as you can.

Please mail or email the completed Registration Form to:

Via Regular Mail:

Uwe Schroeter
Apt. No. 2824
6800 Vista del Norte Road NE
Albuquerque, NM 87113

Via Email:


After your registration form is received, we will contact you with directions and other details about the weekend.  For more information please contact:

Uwe Schroeter uweschroeter@comcast.net (505) 352-9258
Lawrence Cook rlcook44@msn.com (505) 898-2206

Cook's Cabin (Photo by Uwe Schroeter)

Annually New Mexico Men’s Wellness elects new board members to our governing Board of Directors.  Voting is open NOW through October 12, and we invite all members to participate in the election to show your support for NMMW.  This year there are four candidates standing for election: Barry Cooney, John Driscoll, John Bishop and Stephen Poland.  In order to be qualified to vote in the election, you must have attended any NMMW event (Winter Gathering, Spring Retreat, Father-Daughter Gathering, Couples Gathering, Summer Gathering, or Fall Conference) within the past two years (back to 2015).  To vote, please download the two documents linked below:

Both documents are (printable) Adobe Acrobat PDFs.  The ballot and instructions are a type of Acrobat form that can be filled out on a computer with Adobe Acrobat Reader and saved and sent to Robert Younger who is coordinating the election returns.  The forms include complete instructions for submitting you vote via Email or mailing it by postal mail.

If you have any questions about the voting process, please contact Robert by phone (505-250-1895) or email (ryounger@galves.com).