Please fill out the information below to register online and pay with a Credit Card or PayPal for the 2019 Father-Daughter Gathering.

Registration will remain open until we reach registration capacity of 12 Father and Daughter pairs.  We will have a waiting list beyond this point.  

If you’d rather mail in a printed registration form and a check, click here for a pdf form you can download, fill in with your information, and mail-in along with your payment by check.

Note: Registration and payment must be completed for each person participating in the Gathering. This means that if a father is registering for himself and his daughter (or vice versa) she/he will need to go through this procedure twice, once for the father and once for the daughter. If registering for your daughter (or father), please be sure to include their email address (and other contact information) in the registration (not yours) so that they will receive the appropriate communications prior to the Gathering.

Please note our refund policy: Cancellations received within two weeks of the event are refundable at 90% of the amount paid.  Cancellations within less than two weeks of the event are not refundable unless the position is filled from the waiting list (refundable at 90%). 

Please complete the registration form below: 

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When you enter the “captcha” code and click the “Submit” button (at left), you will be directed to our payment page to complete your transaction.  The payment page will automatically total up all of the options that you have chosen on your registration form and present you with the total for payment.  When you have completed the form, you will be directed to a secure payment page to pay on line via credit card or PayPal. When the process is completed you will receive two Email confirmations: one for the registration and one for the receipt of payment. This will be your registration record.


May 31 – June 2, 2019

Ghost Ranch Conference Center, Abiquiu, NM

If We Had a Time Machine . . .

The Father/Daughter Gathering has been held since 2005, and has become one of NM Men’s Wellness’ core events. The mission of the Gathering is to enable Fathers and Daughters to gather together, honor, celebrate, and grow in their unique relationship in a safe place away from their daily lives.

Our theme this year “If we had a time machine… ”, invites us to look back on our memories, express gratitude for our present, and dream up our future relationship.  Come prepared to have fun, learn, grow, and connect. This will be an opportunity to get to know one another in entirely new ways!

Over the course of three days we will share in large and small group settings, explore topics and questions in “fishbowl” style (always a favorite) and enjoy a father-daughter lunch outing.  We will also hike and explore Ghost Ranch together, gather around a campfire and create an art project.

This year’s Gathering is scheduled from May 31-June 2nd, starting at 3pm Friday afternoon through Sunday at 1pm. The registration fee will include two nights lodging in simple yet comfortable shared accommodations, all meals from Friday evening through Sunday morning, all gathering activities related to the conference, and access to all of the hiking trails, library, museums and other Ghost Ranch facilities. A limited number of partial scholarships are available for those who need it.  We hope you will consider being a part of this special gathering.


Registration is open.  If you’d like to attend, please register by the registration deadline April 30th.  Early bird discount of $25 per person if you register by March 31st.

 The cost for the Gathering is $260 per person ($235 with early bird discount) and includes lodging, meals, activities, and a T-shirt designed just for this year’s Gathering.  Daughters must be at least 18 years of age at the time of the gathering; any exceptions to this policy must be cleared in advance by the gathering leaders (see contact information below).

There are two registration options – online and mail-in.  For mail-in registration, click here (or on the graphic to the left) to download the mail-in registration form.  Once you download the form, you can type in your info with Adobe Acrobat Reader and print it out, or just print the blank form and fill it out by hand.  Then, mail the forms with your check to the address on the form.  For online registration (paying with credit card or PayPal) please click here click here (or on the graphic at right) to go to our online registration page.  Regardless of how your register, please complete a registration for each person attending. 

Registration is first come, first served based on when your payment is received.  Due to space limitations, we have allowed for 24 participants (12 fathers and 12 daughters) with a waiting list beyond that.

Early sign-up is encouraged (and greatly appreciated) to facilitate planning and logistics.  We will send details about location, directions and facilities after your registrations are received.


SCHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE for those in need. Please email to request a scholarship or if you have other questions.

We also encourage those who can contribute to the scholarship fund to do so to support those who need it.  Since registration costs are kept to the bare minimum (largely controlled by the cost of our host facilities) and we do not have any endowments for scholarships, we rely on donations to the scholarship fund to make scholarships available.   NMMW is a 501(c)3 nonprofit educational corporation, and all donations to the scholarship fund or other activities of the organization are deductible as charitable contributions to the fullest extent of the law. 


For more information or for news of the Gathering, please contact:


We have prepared a 4-page flyer that includes information about the Father and Daughter Gathering gathering that can be shared with people you think would be interested in participating.  Click here to download it.  This can be sent as an Email attachment and can be used to learn about the Gathering and register.  Please share! 

Some comments from participants in previous Father & Daughter Gatherings

It was fun, it was challenging, and it led to a break-through in our relationship that has brought us closer together.”


“Spending three days with my adult daughter was just a wonderful experience of getting to know her and appreciate her in an entirely new way.”

“It opened windows into a different way of seeing and being with each other and has changed the dynamic of our relationship completely!”


“The father daughter gathering was a special opportunity to grow closer to my father, sharing our feelings and our hopes for moving forward, conscious of the relationship that we want to build with each other.”

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Registration is now open!

Creativity & The Warrior


April 12, 13 and 14, 2019

at Hummingbird Music Camp, 104 Hummingbird Road, Jemez Springs NM 87025

Led by Victor La Cerva and Robert Bern


Conscious, empowered masculinity involves being intimate with both the warrior and the creative archetypal forces within us. We will explore together how these powerful inner energies can enliven and support each other, allowing us to manifest our deepest desires.

Open and inclusive to all men regardless of age, ethnicity, race, marital
status, or sexual orientation.  Limited to a total of 30 men.

Uwe Schroeter Photo

Gather with a small community of men in a natural setting to explore, heal, and vitalize your relationship to your inner warrior and creative muse, over a Friday to Sunday program that will involve individual and small group experiential activities. We all carry the light and shadow of our warrior nature, as well as repression and expression of our creative gifts. What warrior qualities might we access –discipline, commitment, courage – to let our creative light shine?

“The path of the warrior is lifelong, and mastery is often simply staying on the path.”  Richard Strozzi Heckler

Joseph Woods photo

Registration and room assignments will be between 4 and 5:30 pm Friday evening with our potluck dinner at 6:00.  We are at the North Campus.  Feel free to come to Hummingbird anytime on Friday and enjoy the land. If you want to come early on Thursday for an extra night with NO MEALS PROVIDED, you MUST contact Robert Bern after you register. You will pay Hummingbird directly for this extra night. The conference ends after lunch on Sunday.  Accommodations are double rooms.  You can visit the new Hummingbird website to view the North Campus facilities where we are staying.

The cost of Hummingbird meals for the weekend is $44.  There is a $10 bedding charge, unless you bring your own towels, sheets & pillowcase (or sleeping bag).  You may also bring a tent or sleep in your camper for $10 per night (expect freezing temperatures in April at this elevation). 

Friday night we will have our traditional potluck meal starting at 6:00 PM. Please bring HEALTHY food to share, a main dish, vegetable dish, or dessert. All other meals will be served by Hummingbird—vegetarian and gluten-free options available. You may opt-out of ALL Hummingbird meals, & bring your own food, pots and pans.  Flatware and plates will be provided and a refrigerator is available.

For Directions to the Camp click here.    Emergency numbers for Hummingbird: (575) 829-3060 or (575) 829-4227 (don’t count on cell phone coverage in the Jemez).

REFUND POLICY: 90% if cancel before 2 weeks; Within 2 weeks refund at 90% only if we fill your spot from the waiting list.

SCHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE for those in need.  Call Vittorio LaCerva at (505) 983-4233 or e-mail to request a scholarship or if you have other questions.

The art of being a warrior is to balance the wonder and the terror of being alive.   — Carlos Castaneda

How to Register for the Retreat

Registration for the Spring 2019 Retreat is open.  There are two options for registration, mail-in (with payment by check) or online (with payment by credit card or PayPal).   If applying for scholarship assistance, please contact Vittorio (contact information above) before sending in either type of registration. 

Registration will remain open until we reach our 30-man limit or about a week before the Retreat. 

Share our Flyer for the Retreat

Most of the information on this web page is available on a printable three-page PDF flyer (click here to download it) that includes a mail-on registration form that you may download, print and share with any friends you’d like to invite to the Retreat.  The Spring retreat can be a great, and low-cost introduction to Men’s Wellness for men of all ages and backgrounds.



Please fill out the form below to register for the 2019 Spring Retreat at Hummingbird Music Camp in the Jemez. This form is ONLY for those who will be registering online and paying with a Credit Card or PayPal. There is a separate printable form available for those who want to send their registration in via postal mail and pay by check. Please click here to leave this page and directly access that printable registration form.  NEED A SCHOLARSHIP?  Contact Victor before registering at 505-983-4233 or to request one.   

When you have completed filling in the form (please note you must complete all of the options for accommodation type, meals, etc.), you will be directed to a secure payment page that will transfer the payment amounts selected so you can complete the payment online using a credit card (Visa, Mastercard, Discover or American Express) or directly through PayPal (if you have a PayPal account). When the process is completed, you should receive two Email confirmations within a few minutes: one for the registration and one for the receipt of payment. This will be your registration record.

Please be reminded of our Refund policy: If you cancel two weeks or more prior to the retreat, 90% of your payment is refundable.  Within two weeks there will be no refund unless your spot is filled from the waiting list. 

Please enter the security code:
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When you enter the “captcha” code and click the “Submit” button (at left), you will be directed to our payment page to complete your transaction.  The payment page will automatically total up all of the options that you have chosen on your registration form and present you with the total for payment.  After payment is complete, you will receive two Email confirmations — one with your registration information and another with your payment confirmation.  These will serve as your record or registration.