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2018 NMMW Summer Gathering July 19 – 22

Circle Wisdom Retreat

July 19-22, 2018 — Jack’s Creek Campground

Just look around and you’ll see circles in your environment.  In fact, we interact with circles at every moment.  The circle is a universal blueprint underlying life itself.  It is the shape of our planet, our eyes and our blood cells and the tires on our cars. Yet most of us rarely consider how circles actually impact our lives.  Though we understand the notion of a circle of friends, the dynamics, hidden principles and applications of circle to our lives is for most of us an unexplored mystery.

We have found, after exploration of this work for decades, that cultivating circle literacy relieves us of the burden of living in mechanical linearity.  It embeds us within living systems, a relational world-view offering us a ‘life map’ reflective of nature’s flows actively at play in our lives. Come to intentionally, it can accelerate the process of transforming suffering into wisdom.  It can help open basic questions: how do I start over?  How do I find home?  How do I orient myself in the world?

Through storytelling, group and individual processes, this weekend will introduce you to circle work. Most of Saturday will involve an ancient and engaging “two circle walk” involving the weaving together of individual and community wisdom into a coherent wholeness.

Themes we will explore include:

  • How to use circle as a tool to gain clarity, wisdom and insight;
  • Integrating Circle into a nurturance of your wild resiliency;
  • Listening and acting on what YOUR LIFE is asking of you right now;
  • Identifying energy blockages and navigating your way through internal labyrinths;
  • Exploring your relationship between individuality and community.   

Workshop Leaders:

Marc Choyt is a social entrepreneur, community activist and writer who has lived in Santa Fe for thirty years.  He has led numerous workshops on the circle locally and nationally. He is just completing a manuscript entitled, The Circle Manifesto, exploring practical life applications of key principals of the circle.

Larry Glover Larry is a wilderness guide & professional of 38 years and incorporates his experiences in international leadership & creativity consulting into his studies of circle literacy.  He works in service of awe, wonder and curiosity through the reclamation of our inherent belonging, worth and wild resiliency.

For more information, please see our contact information below.

Registration:

Please send in your registration as early as you can. Both mail-in and online registration is available on this web page; please see the links below. We reserved camp sites starting Thursday, July 19 at 3 PM with an official gathering start on Friday, July 20 at 7:00 PM and ending on Sunday, July 22 at noon. Jacks Creek is at approximately 9,000 feet elevation. There are modern outhouses and good drinking water is available.  Be prepared for possible monsoon rains. Also be prepared for hot and dry weather.  More detailed information for registered men will be provided prior to the Gathering. We look forward to seeing you at Jack’s Creek!

Registration is open.  To register online click here where you can fill out a form and pay with a credit card or PayPal. If you’d rather register by sending your contact info and a check by postal mail, click here instead.  Please get your registration in by no later than Sunday, July 14th. 

Please take note: As if this writing the Santa Fe National Forest (which includes the Jack’s Creek Campground) is closed because of the extremely high fire danger.  Usually, but the time the Summer Gathering happens, we have entered the monsoon season and it will have rained enough so that the forest will reopen.  We are investigating possible alternative locations should the forest remain closed, and will contact all who have registered with the alternative location.  If we are forced by circumstances to cancel (we have never had to do that) we will be able to refund any registrations that have been paid.

Support NMMW

New Mexico Men’s Wellness is an educational nonprofit 501(c)(3) corporation and all donations made are tax deductible under Federal tax law.  All of our registration materials include a place where you can designate and add a donation for our work to support the Men’s community in New Mexico and Southern Colorado.  We accept two “types” of donations:

  1. Scholarship Donations are reserved for direct financial support for men who need it to participate in our events and are restricted to that purpose.
  2. General donations are used to offset operating costs end enable us to put your support where it will do the most good for the largest number of men and help us keep our overall event costs as low as possible.

We tend to do what we do on a proverbial shoestring — just compare the cost of our events with those of any other groups — and any support that you can provide will be most appreciated (and, we promise, well used).

Gathering Leader Contact Information:

For questions, comments, or other inquiries (such as scholarship requests), please contact:

Marc Choyt
(505) 988-7393
Email: reflective@cybermesa.com

Larry Glover
(505) 690-5069
Email: lg@wildresiliency.com

If you have any questions about online registration or website-related questions, please contact the NMMW Webmaster Jim Connolly at jrc347@gmail.com.

Scholarships

New Mexico Men’s Wellness wants all men to attend our events regardless of their ability to pay the full registration fees.  Toward that end, scholarships are available if you are in need of one.  To apply for a scholarship, DO NOT REGISTER ONLINE, but rather complete and send in a “Mail-in” registration (leaving the amount paid blank) and also send in a scholarship application form with it.  Both forms can be downloaded and saved on your computer and completed and saved with Adobe Acrobat reader and sent as attachments to Marc Choyt at the Email address above who will contact you.

Recommend the Gathering to Others:

Please help spread the word to friends and associates who you think might be interested in participating in the Summer Gathering.  We have a downloadable two-page flyer (information sheet and registration form) that is suitable for sharing with colleagues, friends, and family who might have an interest in the Gathering and its topic.  Click Summer 2018 Gathering Flyer to download it.

Please note that NMMW has Scholarship funds to help pay registration fees for men that need help to participate in our events.  If you are in need, please look at the “Scholarships” section above and complete an application and send it to Marc Choyt via Email as soon as possible.  His contacts are listed above.

Jack’s Creek Logistics:

We have prepared basic logistical information about the gathering including the basics of what to bring and directions to Jack’s Creek and the group campground.  Please click on What to Bring and Directions to view a printable one-page Acrobat PDF with this information.  Additional, detailed information will be sent to those who are registered just before the gathering via email.

(Photos on this page were supplied by Marc Choyt and Joseph Woods)


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To register online for the Summer Gathering please complete the form below.  When you “submit” the form, you will be directed to our secure payments page to complete your registration.  When the process is completed you will receive two email confirmations: one for the registration and one for the receipt of payment. This will be your registration record.

Follow this procedure ONLY if you’d like to register and pay online.  If you would prefer to register and pay with a check via postal mail, please click here to print or download a “mail-in” registration form. 

Special note: If you would like to request a scholarship do not complete an online registration.  Instead, please see the “Scholarships” section of the Gathering web page where there are instructions about how to register and apply for a scholarship.


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Clicking the “Submit” button will send your registration information as entered above to a secure PayPal payments page.  The amount on the page will be the sum of the entries for registration and scholarship donation.  When payment is completed your registration will go to the Gathering leaders, and you will receive an Email confirmation to you at the Email address entered above.

Prior to the Gathering, you will receive more information via Email with details about the gathering and other things that you will need to know before the gathering starts.

We are almost full so don’t delay in registering immediately . . .

Deepening Intimacy 

A NMMW Couples Gathering

Corrales, NM ~ May 18-20, 2018

We would like to invite you and your partner to be part of the upcoming NMMW Deepening Intimacy Weekend.

Join a small gathering of couples to explore deepening relationship intimacy in a safe and supportive environment.  Together you will experiment and discover ways to enliven essential aspects of your relationship. Be prepared for much fun and laughter, as well.

Last year’s Couples Gathering was a rich and joyful journey of relationship for all who attended, and we’re excited to share this experience with you and your loved one this May.

The gathering will be limited to 12 couples, including the leaders.* All sexual orientations and couple configurations are encouraged to attend.

photos by Joseph Woods

There are only a couple spots left, so please register asap to make sure there is a place for you.  You may register (and pay) online or mail in a printed registration with your check; both methods are linked below.  Once we receive your registration and payment, we will send confirmation of your place in the Gathering.

The cost of the weekend is $190 per couple, which covers materials, catered meals at lunch and dinner, snacks, and clean up after the Gathering. Friday dinner will be a potluck.

Breakfast and lodging will be up to you.  We hope that local attendees will open their homes to out of town participants to keep the cost of lodging to a minimum. However, there is a lovely Bed and Breakfast just walking distance from Chittak and Amba’s home – http://www.noradixon.com.

Come join us and celebrate the magic and mystery of your relationship.

Registration will be accepted on a first come, first serve basis and may be done online (with payment by credit card) or by mail-in (with payment by check).  Click here to register and pay onlineClick here do download and fill out the printable registration form which you then mail to the address on the form with your check.  Upon receipt of your registration and payment we will send an email confirmation of your place in the Gathering.  Also included for download is a flyer about the gathering and printable registration form so you may share information about the gathering with friends.

The cost of the Gathering will be $190 per couple, which will cover the cost of materials, catered meals at lunch and dinner, snacks, and clean up after the Gathering.  Friday dinner will be a potluck.  More logistical details, directions, etc. will be forwarded as the date gets closer.  Breakfasts and lodging will be up to you.  We hope that local registrants will open their homes to out of town participants to keep the cost of lodging to a minimum.

For further information or questions please contact Mark at mpugsley@mac.com (or 505-715-2011) or Bruce at bruceberlin45@gmail.com (or 505-577-4686).  For a woman’s perspective, please connect with Margaret Lubalin at mlubalin@gmail.com (or 917-680-0275).

Mark and Laurie Pugsler
Bruce Berlin and Margaret Lubalin

About the Leaders of the 2018 Couples Gathering

*Mark Pugsley has been a licensed psychotherapist since 1996 with a specialty in Gestalt psychology and training in humanistic psychology, Jungian therapy, and somatic psychology. His specialties include helping couples create intimacy and relationship joy.

Laurie Pugsley has been in partnership with her husband, Mark,  for 16 years. Laurie experienced her first couples retreat last year and found the exercises helped to nurture their relationship.  Laurie feels there is a difference between looking at something and seeing it, listening to someone and hearing them.  She hopes to bring this awareness to the couples retreat.

Bruce Berlin participated in the prior two Men’s Wellness Couples Weekends with his partner, Margaret. With over 40 years of experience in men’s healing work, Bruce feels that deepening intimacy is vital to a strong relationship. A trained mediator and social change activist, he has organized and facilitated numerous gatherings and conferences on a variety of subjects.

Margaret Lubalin believes that for a relationship to thrive, it needs to be nourished. Something she found at the prior NMMW couples retreats. A poet, visual artist and writing teacher, Margaret is excited to bring her creativity to this year’s retreat. Also an activist, her current passion is building a Wall of Love, as a counterpoint to a wall that divides us.


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Thanks to the efforts of Hank Blackwell and a host of contributors, the first assembled, edited and published edition of Man Alive! since the last printed version in 2008 has been produced and published for your reading pleasure.  No, it is not a paper edition (as these things have become too expensive and difficult to produce), but it is a 30-page printable Acrobat PDF version.  For those who like the feel of a printed version, just add your own printer and 30 blank pages and you can make your own.

To download the Spring 2018 version of Man Alive!, just click here and save a local copy to your computer (for printing) or just read it online.

If you have something you would like to contribute for subsequent issues, PLEASE contribute by sending your poems, stories, essays, or other musings to Hank Blackwell via Email below.  Hank would also welcome your comments, feedback, suggestions, praise or thanks.  This can also include your offers to assist in helping to put the next edition together.  Hank my be reached via Email to hbfire88@gmail.com.