The 2016 Father Daughter Gathering has been postponed until 2017 because of insufficient registration.  We will add information on this website as it becomes available.

Mr. Edward Bear (Pooh) cordially invites you to:

“Have a Little Faith in Me”

pooh Now We’re All Grown Up, What Can We Give To
& What Do We Need From Each Other?

 The Annual Father/Daughter Gathering

Ghost Ranch, New Mexico

May 27-30, 2016

When your back’s against the wall
just turn around and you will see
I’ll be there to catch your fall
so have a little faith in me

The New Mexico Men’s Wellness Father/Daughter Gathering offers a safe environment for Fathers and Daughters to explore their special relationship away from the distractions of day-to-day family dynamics and all-round busy-ness.

fire-circle-2015-RHThe Father/Daughter Gathering has been held since 2005, and has become one of the core events of NM Men’s Wellness. The mission of the Gathering is to enable Fathers and Daughters to gather, honor, celebrate, and grow in their unique relationship.

As we approach the 12th Gathering, one topic has come up over the years in many variations: how can father and daughter best support each other? As our father-daughter relationships mature, and we face, or prepare to face, a variety of challenges, such as – just to name a few – overcoming past differences, distance (physical or emotional), finding time for each other, the aging process, health issues, how can we help one another? Or ask for the help we might need? What gets in the way of giving or asking for help? How will we handle a possible role reversal in caring? What sort of support can we offer? Emotional? Physical? Financial?

IMG_3070Winnie-the-Pooh and his collection of friends seem to know plenty about how to support one another, in spite of their widely differing personalities. Some of their tales will form a loose “jumping off point” for exploring and evaluating the areas where we might need support, the ways we think we want to provide support, and the means to communicate our needs to one another.

This year’s Gathering is scheduled over the Memorial Day weekend, running from late Friday afternoon May 27 through Monday morning, May 30. This three night framework allows time for both structured events and for relaxing.  Scholarships are available for those who need them; please see the Scholarship section below for more information.

zen-garden-RHREGISTRATION

Registration has been closed and the Gathering postponed until 2017.  The cost for the Gathering is $290 and includes 3 nights lodging in simple yet comfortable accommodations, 8 meals (Friday evening through Monday morning), all gathering activities and a  T-shirt designed just for this year’s Gathering.  Access to all of the hiking trails, library, museums and other Ghost Ranch facilities is also included.  Daughters must be at least 18 years of age at the time of the gathering; any exceptions to this policy must be cleared in advance by the gathering leaders (see contact information below).

We have an all-online option for registration where you can register by completing an online form and paying with a credit card or PayPal in a single simple step.  You may also register by filling out a registration form and sending it with a check in the mail.  Registration is first come, first served based on when your payment is received.  Due to space limitations, we have allowed for 30 participants (15 fathers and 15 daughters) with a waiting list beyond that.

lunch-2015-RHEarly sign-up is encouraged (and greatly appreciated) to facilitate planning and logistics.  We will send some details about location, directions and facilities (via Email) after your registrations are received.

SCHOLARSHIPS

NMMW works very hard to keep registration fees as low as possible.  We do have some funds to provide scholarship assistance for those who are eager to attend and in need of financial help.  Those applying for a scholarship need to complete and send in both a Mail-in Registration Form and a NMMW Scholarship Request Form.  Both of these forms may be downloaded to your computer (or other devices that have Adobe Acrobat Reader installed – see link below), and must be filled out, saved, and sent in as e-mail attachments to Charles Fisher at cfisher50@gmail.com. They may be optionally printed and mailed to the address on the registration form.  Applicants may delay payment until the scholarship is approved and are encouraged to send everything in as far in advance of the retreat as possible.  Early submission will improve your chances of receiving assistance.

QUESTIONS?

We welcome all Fathers and Daughters to the Gathering.  Given the changing nature of family, we also welcome those who may be “non-traditional” Fathers and Daughters to participate.  If you have an interest in participating and any questions, please do not hesitate to contact us by Email or phone.

Charles-Abi-2015-RHIf you know of someone who might have an interest or could benefit, please direct them to this web page at www.nmmw.org/f-d-2016  or have them contact Charles, Abi, Jan or Kate (contact information below).  Included here is a printable Acrobat PDF flyer (that we encourage you to share with other fathers and daughters who might be interested in this special Gathering) as well as a downloadable print-ready registration form that can also be shared and used to register.  

If you have any questions, would like more information or for news of the Gathering, please contact:

Charles Fisher at cfisher50@gmail.com (505-250-5344)
Abi Fisher Lewis at abi.fisher@gmail.com (505-504-3105)

Jan Unna at janu1@me.com
Kate Unna at kate.unna@gmail.com


If you need to download Adobe’s Free Acrobat Reader (very useful for lots of things including reading flyers, registration forms and stuff we will send before the Gathering) please click on the logo below which will take you to Adobe’s site and assist with getting it installed:

Click to Download Adobe Acrobat Reader

(Thanks to Roger Harmon for photos of the 2015 Father Daughter Gathering)

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Please fill out the form below to register for the 2016 Father-Daughter Gathering at Ghost Ranch. This form is ONLY for those who will be registering online and paying with a Credit Card or PayPal. There is a separate printable form available for those who want to send their registration in and pay by check. Please click here to leave this page and directly access that printable registration form.

For those applying for scholarship assistance, please go back to the Gathering web page (use your web browser’s back button or click on 2016 Father-Daughter Gathering) and read the scholarship section; it will help with the fairly simple procedure used to apply for a scholarship. If you are applying for a scholarship do not use this page for registration. You will be advised how to complete your registration after the scholarship application process is complete.

A form and payment must be completed for each person participating in the Gathering. This means that if a father is registering for himself and his daughter he will need to go through this procedure twice, once for each participant being registered. If registering for your daughter (or vice versa), please be sure to include her (his) Email address (and other contact information) in the registration (not yours) so that she (he) will receive the appropriate communications prior to the Gathering.

When you have completed filling in the form, you will be directed to a secure payment page that will transfer the payment amounts selected so you can complete the payment on line via a variety of credit cards (Visa, Mastercard, Discover or American Express) or directly through PayPal (if you have a PayPal account). When the process is completed you should receive two Email confirmations: one for the registration and one for the receipt of payment. This will be your registration record.


Please enter the security code:
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Clicking the “Submit” button at left will send your registration information as entered above to a secure payments page to make your online payment with a credit card or through PayPal.  Please recheck the form before you submit it.  The amount on the page will be the sum of the entries for registration and scholarship donation.  When payment is completed your registration will go to the Father Daughter Gathering leaders and you will receive an Email confirmation at the Email address entered above.

Prior to the Gathering, you will receive more information via Email with details about the gathering, the accommodations at Ghost Ranch and other things that you will need to know before the gathering starts on Friday, May 27.

We Are Our Stories

 

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Fire Ceremony (photo by Joseph Woods)

Registration for the Spring Retreat has closed on April 3.

15th Annual New Mexico Men’s Wellness Spring Retreat

April 8-10, 2016

This year’s Spring Retreat is at Hummingbird Music Camp just north of Jemez Springs, New Mexico.  Rees Bevan and Doug Booth are leading this year.

OVERVIEW

We cordially invite the men of New Mexico Men’s Wellness to the 2016 NMMW Spring Retreat, We Are Our Stories (and some of our stories are BS).  Stories exert great power.  Stories teach us of heroes and villains.  Stories help us connect to other people.  Stories build memories and teach us about the world.

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Photo by Joseph Woods

How do we choose to believe a story?  What happens if the stories are misleading, wrong, or hurtful?  Can we “un-believe” a story?  Are there benefits to examining our stories?

We build narratives to make sense of the things that happen around us and to us.  We attach emotions and parts of our identities to these stories.  The stories always make sense of the chaos, but the stories are not always right.  How do we decide which stories serve us well?

Please bring your stories, your presence, and your wisdom and join your NMMW brothers for some thoughtful storytelling and self-examination in the peaceful confines of the Hummingbird Music Camp.  As always, the Spring Retreat allows time for the exploration of nature, reflection, conversation, meditation, music, and games.

Come and be part of the story of Spring Retreat 2016!

REGISTRATION

Registration has closed as of April 3 for the Spring Retreat.

This year we have an all-online option for registration where you can register by completing an online form and paying with a credit card or PayPal in a single simple step.  You may also register (as always) by filling out a registration form and sending it with a check in the mail.  Both methods include various options related to accommodations and meals that are explained there.  Registration is first come, first served based on when your payment is received.  Due to space limitations, we have allowed for 30 participants with a waiting list beyond that.

As an incentive to encourage younger men experience our retreat, this year we are offering a $50 discount to any man 50 years old or younger who is attending a NMMW event for the first time.  If this applies to you, please be sure to select the appropriate registration option on your registration form (online or mail-in) to receive the discount.

Early sign-up is encouraged (and greatly appreciated) to facilitate planning and logistics.  We will send some details about location, directions and facilities (via Email) after your registrations are received.

SETTING AND LOGISTICS

Hummingbird Music Camp is located a couple of miles north of Jemez Springs, New Mexico.  We will have the north campus to ourselves: a large meeting/gathering room, covered outdoor space, and dorm style double rooms.  The main campus, including the dining room where we share our meals with the other guests, is a ten minute walk from our headquarters.  The lively Jemez River runs through the camp, and the nearby forested mountains and dramatic red rock cliffs provide ready opportunities for hiking, bird watching and exploration. Relaxing hot springs are a short drive from the camp.

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Lunch (photo by Jim Connolly)

Meals (included with several registration options) provided by Hummingbird are simple but substantial and begin Saturday morning through noon on Sunday.  For those men choosing to bring their own food for meals, full kitchen facilities (including refrigerator, stove, microwave and coffee makers) are available on site.  There will be a potluck supper Friday evening between 5:00 and 6:30pm before the opening session at 7:00pm.

More detailed logistical information about the Hummingbird facilities, the Friday potluck and traditions of the Spring Retreat will be sent to all registrants via Email at least a week (or more) ahead of the retreat.  One “head’s up” is that it is best for men to bring their own bedding (or sleeping bag), pillow and towel(s) since these are not automatically provided by Hummingbird.

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Potluck (photo by Uwe Schroeter)

QUESTIONS?  

As always, we welcome all men, including first timers, to the retreat. If you know of someone who might have an interest or could benefit, please direct them to this web page at www.nmmw.org/Spring2016  or have them contact Rees or Doug (contact information below).  Included here is a printable Acrobat PDF flyer (that we encourage NMMW members to share with friends and colleagues or post for others to see and read) as well as a downloadable print-ready registration form that can also be shared and used to register.  

If any new men or existing NMMW members have questions about any aspects of the retreat, please contact Rees or Doug. We are happy to answer questions and discuss the retreat with them.

Rees Bevan
Email: rbevan@swcp.com
Phone: (505) 263-6810

Doug Booth
Email: dougbooth4@gmail.com
Phone: (505) 470-4026

Come and be part of the story of Spring Retreat 2016!

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Small Circle (photo by Uwe Schroeter)

SCHOLARSHIPS

Although NMMW works very hard to keep registration fees as low as possible, we do have some funds to provide sponsorship assistance for those men who are eager to attend and in need of financial help. Those applying for a scholarship need to complete and send in both a Registration Form and a NMMW Scholarship Request Form.  Both of these forms may be downloaded to your computer (and to other devices that have Adobe Acrobat Reader installed — see link below), filled out, saved and sent in as Email attachments to Rees at rbevan@swcp.com.  They may be optionally printed and mailed to the address on the registration form.  Applicants may delay payment until the scholarship is approved and are encouraged to send everything in as far in advance of the retreat as possible.


If you need to download Adobe’s Free Acrobat Reader (very useful for lots of things including reading flyers, registration forms and stuff we will send before the retreat) please click on the logo below which will take you to Adobe’s site and assist with getting it installed:

Click to Download Adobe Acrobat Reader

Please fill out the form below to register for the 2016 Spring Retreat at Hummingbird Music Camp in the Jemez. This form is ONLY for those who will be registering online and paying with a Credit Card or PayPal. There is a separate printable form available for those who want to send their registration in via postal mail and pay by check. Please click here to leave this page and directly access that printable registration form.

When you have completed filling in the form, you will be directed to a secure payment page that will transfer the payment amounts selected so you can complete the payment online using a credit card (Visa, Mastercard, Discover or American Express) or directly through PayPal (if you have a PayPal account). When the process is completed, you should receive two Email confirmations within a few minutes: one for the registration and one for the receipt of payment. This will be your registration record.


Please enter the security code:
security code
Security Code (lowercase letters):

Submit

Clicking the “Submit” button will send your registration information as entered above to a secure PayPal payments page where you will make the appropriate online payment based on your entries above with your Credit Card or through PayPal.  The amount on the page will be the sum of the entries for registration and scholarship donation.  When payment is completed your registration will go to the Gathering leaders, and you will receive a confirmation at the Email address entered above.

At least a week prior to the Gathering, you will receive more information via Email with details about the logistics, location and other things that you will need to know before the gathering starts on Friday, April 8.